Sunday, February 05, 2012
Relationships
Relationships are tricky. We've all got those friends or family members that light us up like a fireball dropping from the sun. Now you're confused right? Like, is that a good thing or a bad thing? Well, both actually. We naturally want to be around the ones who fire us up and make us passionate about life. Those are the good fireballs. But, we're all too familiar with those people who drag us down into the pit of despair. The ones who mainly talk about how life sucks or about how someone else sucks or about how the angle of the sun today, sucks. Those are the challenging fireballs.
The reality is that we have to deal with both kinds of people because God has given us a variety of relationships. Our weekly interactions involve relatives, friends, co-workers, school acquaintances, neighbors, church members, monsters, aliens, etc. (ok, just kidding about the last two). And the way we respond to both types of fireballs is important if we want to be used for God's purposes! The key to all of this is our perspective because it dictates how we'll react to both kinds of individuals. It's generally easy to interact with the positive people in our lives. In fact, we can't wait to hang out with them. But it's another thing entirely to put up with the ones who weigh us down.
I have this friend who's been like a sister to me since junior high. Neither of us is perfect, but we just naturally extend grace to the other person. In short, we "get" each other! Even if one of us is irritable, we just brush it off cuz we realize it's nothing personal. We genuinely enjoy our time together and never have to waste time being fake. Our husbands have the same name. Our first kids were born on the exact same day. The friendship works, you know?
Then there are those relationships that just require more energy. No matter how you slice it, it's always more intense. You say one thing, but she hears another. You meant such-and-such but it got totally blown out of proportion. You know what I'm talking about! It's like right away, THAT person came to mind. And my question for the tricky relationships is, how should we react? And does our response really make a difference for eternity? Do we really have to bear all that fruit that Paul talks about in Galatians chapter five, like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness and blah, blah, blah? (I think we all know the answer to that one. The answer is YES!!!) :)
God's been faithful to show me that He has a specific plan for both the blissful and the difficult relationships in our lives. The easy ones are necessary because God knows we need that time of restoration and encouragement. You can just chill out and talk about whatever and it doesn't even matter. Even if a few euphemisms (or worse) slip out, you're not gonna feel judged. In short, you can be real! You get to ditch the pretenses and the sugar-coated explanations. That person is there to lift you up along the way. And you're there to guide and love her as well!
But don't think that God doesn't use the rough-edged relationships too. God has two main purposes for those ones: first to change us and second to minister to them. When we begin to care for the unlovable, guess what? It makes us more loving along the way. When we can't hear another thing about this or that from you-know-who, it makes us more patient (you know it's totally true). And when we accept someone's apology for the hundredth time, we learn to be more forgiving as well. During this process of loving people with Christ's compassion, we get to be the road signs that lead these people closer to heaven. They actually get to see Jesus living in us!
But sometimes we just want to quit. The difficult fireballs feel too overwhelming. He is too mean. She is too weird. That neighbor is too loud. Our flesh takes over and wants to shout back. Our tears become too heavy and we'd rather just let them go to hell instead of heaven. Why forgive when it's not even making a difference anyways? How can our listening ears actually make an ounce of change to that impossible situation? Then again, our struggle is not against flesh and blood, remember? Ephesians 6:12 says we're really dealing with "the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."
So when you encounter that acquaintance at work who makes you want to run for the EXIT door the instant you see him, try to rethink your motives. Do you think it's an accident that his cubicle sits right across from yours? You see, with God, nothing happens by coincidence. If someone's in your life, it's because the Lord put them there, not because the stars were aligned incorrectly. "Chance" is not a Christian concept, even though we sometimes wish it was (because then we would have an excuse with certain people, right?). You know that family member that you hope responds "No" to the upcoming Evite event? Maybe you could pray for them to attend the party instead of silently wishing that they'd vanish to a different planet.
When we see things through God's eyes, we achieve a really refreshing perspective! Now that doesn't always mean that we get it the first time or the hundredth time or even the thousandth time. But with God's help, we eventually see that God wants to work through all of our relationships, the easy ones and the hard ones. Three simple steps help us along that path. First, pray more! Ask for God's direction and wisdom for all of your relationships. Second, read the Bible more! God's word is there to guide us and to direct our steps. Third, let the Holy spirit work through you. As you do those first two things, God's spirit begins to take over and minister through you, helping you to bless others and to endure life's challenges.
Remember that the positive and negative fireballs are intentionally placed in your life by God. But it's all how you choose to see them. Will you allow God to minister to your friends, family members, neighbors, your spouse, or that feisty co-worker... through YOU? Ask Him what He thinks! The Holy Spirit will show you the next step if you ask Him for help along the way. God will give you rest during some simple downtime with a loved one (there's a time for that as well). But he'll also call you to some uglier, less comfortable situations too.
Fireballs are in our lives, no matter what. So let's take some time to thank God for both types this week, the good ones and the less good ones. When we lose perspective on things, we see things as good and bad. We put sparkles and fireworks around the easy stuff in our lives but paint dark black strokes around the imperfect challenges. Remember that God is present at all times and at work in all of our circumstances. He loves to work "for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28).
The reality is that we have to deal with both kinds of people because God has given us a variety of relationships. Our weekly interactions involve relatives, friends, co-workers, school acquaintances, neighbors, church members, monsters, aliens, etc. (ok, just kidding about the last two). And the way we respond to both types of fireballs is important if we want to be used for God's purposes! The key to all of this is our perspective because it dictates how we'll react to both kinds of individuals. It's generally easy to interact with the positive people in our lives. In fact, we can't wait to hang out with them. But it's another thing entirely to put up with the ones who weigh us down.
I have this friend who's been like a sister to me since junior high. Neither of us is perfect, but we just naturally extend grace to the other person. In short, we "get" each other! Even if one of us is irritable, we just brush it off cuz we realize it's nothing personal. We genuinely enjoy our time together and never have to waste time being fake. Our husbands have the same name. Our first kids were born on the exact same day. The friendship works, you know?
Then there are those relationships that just require more energy. No matter how you slice it, it's always more intense. You say one thing, but she hears another. You meant such-and-such but it got totally blown out of proportion. You know what I'm talking about! It's like right away, THAT person came to mind. And my question for the tricky relationships is, how should we react? And does our response really make a difference for eternity? Do we really have to bear all that fruit that Paul talks about in Galatians chapter five, like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness and blah, blah, blah? (I think we all know the answer to that one. The answer is YES!!!) :)
God's been faithful to show me that He has a specific plan for both the blissful and the difficult relationships in our lives. The easy ones are necessary because God knows we need that time of restoration and encouragement. You can just chill out and talk about whatever and it doesn't even matter. Even if a few euphemisms (or worse) slip out, you're not gonna feel judged. In short, you can be real! You get to ditch the pretenses and the sugar-coated explanations. That person is there to lift you up along the way. And you're there to guide and love her as well!
But don't think that God doesn't use the rough-edged relationships too. God has two main purposes for those ones: first to change us and second to minister to them. When we begin to care for the unlovable, guess what? It makes us more loving along the way. When we can't hear another thing about this or that from you-know-who, it makes us more patient (you know it's totally true). And when we accept someone's apology for the hundredth time, we learn to be more forgiving as well. During this process of loving people with Christ's compassion, we get to be the road signs that lead these people closer to heaven. They actually get to see Jesus living in us!
But sometimes we just want to quit. The difficult fireballs feel too overwhelming. He is too mean. She is too weird. That neighbor is too loud. Our flesh takes over and wants to shout back. Our tears become too heavy and we'd rather just let them go to hell instead of heaven. Why forgive when it's not even making a difference anyways? How can our listening ears actually make an ounce of change to that impossible situation? Then again, our struggle is not against flesh and blood, remember? Ephesians 6:12 says we're really dealing with "the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."
So when you encounter that acquaintance at work who makes you want to run for the EXIT door the instant you see him, try to rethink your motives. Do you think it's an accident that his cubicle sits right across from yours? You see, with God, nothing happens by coincidence. If someone's in your life, it's because the Lord put them there, not because the stars were aligned incorrectly. "Chance" is not a Christian concept, even though we sometimes wish it was (because then we would have an excuse with certain people, right?). You know that family member that you hope responds "No" to the upcoming Evite event? Maybe you could pray for them to attend the party instead of silently wishing that they'd vanish to a different planet.
When we see things through God's eyes, we achieve a really refreshing perspective! Now that doesn't always mean that we get it the first time or the hundredth time or even the thousandth time. But with God's help, we eventually see that God wants to work through all of our relationships, the easy ones and the hard ones. Three simple steps help us along that path. First, pray more! Ask for God's direction and wisdom for all of your relationships. Second, read the Bible more! God's word is there to guide us and to direct our steps. Third, let the Holy spirit work through you. As you do those first two things, God's spirit begins to take over and minister through you, helping you to bless others and to endure life's challenges.
Remember that the positive and negative fireballs are intentionally placed in your life by God. But it's all how you choose to see them. Will you allow God to minister to your friends, family members, neighbors, your spouse, or that feisty co-worker... through YOU? Ask Him what He thinks! The Holy Spirit will show you the next step if you ask Him for help along the way. God will give you rest during some simple downtime with a loved one (there's a time for that as well). But he'll also call you to some uglier, less comfortable situations too.
Fireballs are in our lives, no matter what. So let's take some time to thank God for both types this week, the good ones and the less good ones. When we lose perspective on things, we see things as good and bad. We put sparkles and fireworks around the easy stuff in our lives but paint dark black strokes around the imperfect challenges. Remember that God is present at all times and at work in all of our circumstances. He loves to work "for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28).
Labels: faith, family, friendships, God, relationships
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
The sun rises anew
No matter how stressful life gets, the sun ALWAYS rises anew. It's such a great reminder that we are not alone. Even if an emotional serpent has me by the throat, it can not thwart the sun's warmth.
God's word is like that too. It's always there for us. It soothes us with truth and encouragement, no matter what we face! In a world where chaos and injustice run rampant, we can turn to the Bible to find the answers.
But, do the sun's heat and the Bible's presence mean that God is good? Even though I struggle to see that at times, I think the answer is "Yes, they do." It is by God's mercy that the sun's radiance lights our planet without burning us into flames.
Our earth's axis at 23.5 degrees to the sun is a miracle in and of itself. We don't spin off into space like we would if it were off of that by even one millionth of one degree. It's this huge friendly reminder from the Lord like, "Hey, I see you guys and I'm taking care of you."
His Word does that too. He didn't have to give it to us. We could have been left for dead, clueless, and even more ridiculous than we already are.
Imagine the confusion of life with no rules and no guidance. But because of God's grace, He filled the Bible's authors with some super deep and amazing insights over the years.
So instead of walking blindly, we get to read about God's plan for our lives, no matter how insane they get. Psalm 119:105 says, "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path."
As I've struggled in my own whirlwind of darkness lately, I've been challenged about God's goodness. Do I really believe He is good, you know when I'm not at church singing worship songs with hundreds of other believers?
What about God's goodness when I wake up with really upsetting thoughts in my head? What about when I feel really down and the feelings don't go away for a long time? Is He still good, even then?
My friend reminded me earlier today... that He is good, no matter what we're going through. Praise God for those cozy chairs at Starbucks cuz she had to listen to me cry and moan about this and that for two hours.
Through her plethora of struggles in life she said she has always clung to the reality of God's goodness. She hasn't lost that hope no matter how challenging her family's circumstances have been. And while she didn't judge me at all for questioning God's goodness, she encouraged me through her testimony.
My twin sister also reminded me in a text today of Hebrews 11:1, "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." That's hard for me on most days... to be sure of what I hope for???
Do I really hope for heaven and all that spiritual stuff on most days? Probably not. I get caught somewhere between wishing for emotional wholeness and the American dream.
Happiness! An end to all emotional struggles! Financial security! Health and safety for our three kids! The list goes on ad nauseum. And I certainly don't always focus on those fluffy angel-feathered wishes: to be holy, to be ready for heaven, to be used by God, etc.
And then... certain of what I can't see? Not sure I nail that one either. I'm afraid of the dark, so if I can't see something, it just freaks me out. Not seeing the afterlife... frankly, that drives me nuts. Of course, I want to end up there, but the thought terrifies me.
It's hard for me to see my emotional and spiritual development over the years as well. Has the Lord really done a work of restoration and wholeness in me since I accepted Christ twenty-five years ago? If I depend upon my feelings, I might not feel like God has done very much at all.
But, if I take Hebrews 11:1 to be true, then He must be doing something. I just have to be sure that I'm hoping for what He hopes for. And of course, I must be certain of that hope, even when I can't see the result of it at this exact moment.
So, what do you think about God's goodness? Do the sun's constancy and the Word of God give you hope in His goodness? Share your thoughts here. We'd love to hear from you, even if you disagree. Keeping it real! :)
God's word is like that too. It's always there for us. It soothes us with truth and encouragement, no matter what we face! In a world where chaos and injustice run rampant, we can turn to the Bible to find the answers.
But, do the sun's heat and the Bible's presence mean that God is good? Even though I struggle to see that at times, I think the answer is "Yes, they do." It is by God's mercy that the sun's radiance lights our planet without burning us into flames.
Our earth's axis at 23.5 degrees to the sun is a miracle in and of itself. We don't spin off into space like we would if it were off of that by even one millionth of one degree. It's this huge friendly reminder from the Lord like, "Hey, I see you guys and I'm taking care of you."
His Word does that too. He didn't have to give it to us. We could have been left for dead, clueless, and even more ridiculous than we already are.
Imagine the confusion of life with no rules and no guidance. But because of God's grace, He filled the Bible's authors with some super deep and amazing insights over the years.
So instead of walking blindly, we get to read about God's plan for our lives, no matter how insane they get. Psalm 119:105 says, "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path."
As I've struggled in my own whirlwind of darkness lately, I've been challenged about God's goodness. Do I really believe He is good, you know when I'm not at church singing worship songs with hundreds of other believers?
What about God's goodness when I wake up with really upsetting thoughts in my head? What about when I feel really down and the feelings don't go away for a long time? Is He still good, even then?
My friend reminded me earlier today... that He is good, no matter what we're going through. Praise God for those cozy chairs at Starbucks cuz she had to listen to me cry and moan about this and that for two hours.
Through her plethora of struggles in life she said she has always clung to the reality of God's goodness. She hasn't lost that hope no matter how challenging her family's circumstances have been. And while she didn't judge me at all for questioning God's goodness, she encouraged me through her testimony.
My twin sister also reminded me in a text today of Hebrews 11:1, "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." That's hard for me on most days... to be sure of what I hope for???
Do I really hope for heaven and all that spiritual stuff on most days? Probably not. I get caught somewhere between wishing for emotional wholeness and the American dream.
Happiness! An end to all emotional struggles! Financial security! Health and safety for our three kids! The list goes on ad nauseum. And I certainly don't always focus on those fluffy angel-feathered wishes: to be holy, to be ready for heaven, to be used by God, etc.
And then... certain of what I can't see? Not sure I nail that one either. I'm afraid of the dark, so if I can't see something, it just freaks me out. Not seeing the afterlife... frankly, that drives me nuts. Of course, I want to end up there, but the thought terrifies me.
It's hard for me to see my emotional and spiritual development over the years as well. Has the Lord really done a work of restoration and wholeness in me since I accepted Christ twenty-five years ago? If I depend upon my feelings, I might not feel like God has done very much at all.
But, if I take Hebrews 11:1 to be true, then He must be doing something. I just have to be sure that I'm hoping for what He hopes for. And of course, I must be certain of that hope, even when I can't see the result of it at this exact moment.
So, what do you think about God's goodness? Do the sun's constancy and the Word of God give you hope in His goodness? Share your thoughts here. We'd love to hear from you, even if you disagree. Keeping it real! :)
Labels: Bible, God, goodness, sun
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Is God into Texting?
What if God was into texting? I mean, can you imagine how practical that would be? "God, need more money please." "God, please help w/ pkng space." "God, cool sky today, ttyl."
I send out thousands of texts per month, if you can believe it. But, if you're an avid texter, then "u r not surprised." As I was just texting my twin sister to discuss our evening plans, I pondered to myself, "What if I could just text God a message?"
Sometimes, we love to text because we feel like it's so quick and easy. It's not that I don't love to talk to my family and friends, but I absolutely love the convenience of texting over phone calls for certain things. Like, "What time are you coming over?" Or something like, "Oops, did I leave my sunglasses at your house?"
In fact, I feel more connected at times with my texting community of friends because I'm able to share a new blog post or a picture of my kids via texting throughout the day. This type of communication actually feels incredibly personal because my texting network is so accessible. Plus, I feel like we keep each other posted about the smaller details of life.
I love how I can shoot off a quick message to ten people within five seconds all while walking to the front door with my three kids and my red coffee mug in hand. Instantly, my husband can see exactly what they look like with ice cream on their faces after school from Baskin Robbins. :)
It's great how my friends and I can have an entire conversation in a matter of minutes about whatever...via text and how it makes me feel like they actually care that I just realized my youngest daughter was wearing her brother's underwear. Or, I can find out that my friend is stopping by later to drop off some homemade enchiladas.
It's so neat that I can get a picture of my IL college room-mate and her family from their vacation to the Sequoias within seconds. In a way, it's like I'm there with them experiencing the great outdoors; I can almost smell the fresh pine needles. And then, I can leave the pic on my phone to glance at whenever I think of this friend, or I can use it as my phone's wallpaper for a few days. :)
Some people loathe texting because it seems so impersonal. I totally understand that perspective too. There are moments when a text will not suffice. At times, it does become necessary or just more enjoyable to actually dial the phone for a real life conversation. And sometimes, even a phone call won't do, and you just need to hook up for a coffee date to chat in person. But, you can text about the who, what, when, where, and why. :)
If you are an anti-texter, you shouldn't write off texting as superficial though. For example, texting someone to tell them that they want to end their friendship with you seems shallow and cruel. However, texting a quick picture of a pretty sunset or a reminder note seems incredibly appropriate.
If you open yourself up to it, you might see that texting is actually a valuable form of communication. In fact, when I ask myself about God's view on texting, I think He'd say that it's totally acceptable if kept in balance like most things in life.
For example, one glass of wine is good and even healthy; four glasses is totally overboard. It's the same thing with texting. And I definitely have to keep myself in check on that. It's tempting to pull out my phone and start texting at the park instead of pushing my daughter on the swing. So, obviously I have to limit my screen time so I can spend quality time with my family as my first priority.
God might make a few criticisms about texting, such as "Don't text and drive" or "You should text ME more often." But, I think all in all, He'd definitely approve. It's even cool how Christian radio stations will text you their "verse of the day." How could God disapprove of that?
Hold on, I just got two new texts. So, I'm gonna go and check those out. In the interim though, share some of your thoughts on texting. What do you think? Does the "Big Guy in the sky" approve? We'd love to hear from you. :)
I send out thousands of texts per month, if you can believe it. But, if you're an avid texter, then "u r not surprised." As I was just texting my twin sister to discuss our evening plans, I pondered to myself, "What if I could just text God a message?"
Sometimes, we love to text because we feel like it's so quick and easy. It's not that I don't love to talk to my family and friends, but I absolutely love the convenience of texting over phone calls for certain things. Like, "What time are you coming over?" Or something like, "Oops, did I leave my sunglasses at your house?"
In fact, I feel more connected at times with my texting community of friends because I'm able to share a new blog post or a picture of my kids via texting throughout the day. This type of communication actually feels incredibly personal because my texting network is so accessible. Plus, I feel like we keep each other posted about the smaller details of life.
I love how I can shoot off a quick message to ten people within five seconds all while walking to the front door with my three kids and my red coffee mug in hand. Instantly, my husband can see exactly what they look like with ice cream on their faces after school from Baskin Robbins. :)
It's great how my friends and I can have an entire conversation in a matter of minutes about whatever...via text and how it makes me feel like they actually care that I just realized my youngest daughter was wearing her brother's underwear. Or, I can find out that my friend is stopping by later to drop off some homemade enchiladas.
It's so neat that I can get a picture of my IL college room-mate and her family from their vacation to the Sequoias within seconds. In a way, it's like I'm there with them experiencing the great outdoors; I can almost smell the fresh pine needles. And then, I can leave the pic on my phone to glance at whenever I think of this friend, or I can use it as my phone's wallpaper for a few days. :)
Some people loathe texting because it seems so impersonal. I totally understand that perspective too. There are moments when a text will not suffice. At times, it does become necessary or just more enjoyable to actually dial the phone for a real life conversation. And sometimes, even a phone call won't do, and you just need to hook up for a coffee date to chat in person. But, you can text about the who, what, when, where, and why. :)
If you are an anti-texter, you shouldn't write off texting as superficial though. For example, texting someone to tell them that they want to end their friendship with you seems shallow and cruel. However, texting a quick picture of a pretty sunset or a reminder note seems incredibly appropriate.
If you open yourself up to it, you might see that texting is actually a valuable form of communication. In fact, when I ask myself about God's view on texting, I think He'd say that it's totally acceptable if kept in balance like most things in life.
For example, one glass of wine is good and even healthy; four glasses is totally overboard. It's the same thing with texting. And I definitely have to keep myself in check on that. It's tempting to pull out my phone and start texting at the park instead of pushing my daughter on the swing. So, obviously I have to limit my screen time so I can spend quality time with my family as my first priority.
God might make a few criticisms about texting, such as "Don't text and drive" or "You should text ME more often." But, I think all in all, He'd definitely approve. It's even cool how Christian radio stations will text you their "verse of the day." How could God disapprove of that?
Hold on, I just got two new texts. So, I'm gonna go and check those out. In the interim though, share some of your thoughts on texting. What do you think? Does the "Big Guy in the sky" approve? We'd love to hear from you. :)
Thursday, September 16, 2010
God and Gardening
Some of you know me well and that means you are acquainted with my fruit tree addiction. I enjoy gardening in general but more specifically, I love my fruit trees and vines. Some of you vehemently hate the great outdoors; the dirt, thorns, and sunshine drive you nuts. So, you might zone out and dismiss what lies ahead. But, stick around and you'll see that there's something here for you as well.
For me, gardening is my peaceful place. I love to water my trees, to look for new blossoms, or to discover a new piece of fruit. I can even tell when one of my trees has grown by just one inch. I can see this clearly on my newer avocado tree. The new growth is smooth and light green, as it optimistically shoots up toward the sun. It's so exciting! And I'm a total nerd when it comes to gifts. Guess what I asked for this past Mother's Day? My Pixie tangerine tree, of course. :)
If you see me out watering, you might even catch me talking to one of my trees or laying hands on a struggling tree or grape-vine. I mean, if God cares about what I care about, then I figure He can heal one of my trees or vines as well. Just recently, I finally noticed some growth on one of my fussy grape-vines. He'd been so stubborn, refusing to grow a single leaf after months and months of watering. But, finally...one has popped out to say hello. And I can't wait to plant six more bare root cousins of his over the next few weeks. :)
Yet frequently, as I'm out taking care of my fourteen fruit trees and my plethora of vines, I feel like they're not producing much. Although the trees have tons of leaves, I still wonder if all of my efforts will ever pay off. I ponder, "When will I see some fruit?" But, then I gaze at my navel orange, mandarin-orange, Mexican lime, peach, plum, Delicious apple, green olive, tangerine, cherry, Haas avocado, apricot, pear-apple, and the two lemon trees. I love and know my trees because they are mine.
I breathe in the fragrance of their blossoms and then I feel like it's all worth it. After a couple of years, I see some of my citrus trees full of fruit and it reminds me that I'll see new fruit on the others as well...in due time. I think back to the one apple that my son and I enjoyed earlier this season. It was small, lonely, and picked a little bit too early, but super tasty and rewarding. It was ours...the one that we'd worked so hard to harvest.
As I think about each one of my trees and vines, I just have to picture my garden and think through where each one stands. Then, I can remember what each one looks like. I can visualize which one has yellowing leaves and needs less or more water than another. I can recall the joy I had this past week as my pear-apple finally evidenced some early fall blossoms. The fruit is FINALLY on its way after twenty months of chill-hours (I've prayed over this specific tree numerous times). YEAH!!!
Earlier today, when I dropped off all three of my kids at school, I felt a sense of relief, but it wasn't joyful, like the pear-apple. I felt more like my cherry tree that starts to look like it's gonna produce hundreds of cherries but then fizzles out and says, "No, I need more chill hours, ha-ha! The joke's on you." :(
This morning was chaotic, so I felt ecstatic to have some time to myself, to think, to text a few people...a few minutes just to pray and to shed a few tired tears. Some weeks are overwhelming. You know that your job as a mom is worth all of the effort, but if you're honest, you wonder when you're gonna see the fruit in your own kids' lives. Frequently, it's hard to focus on the hugs and kisses amidst the whining, arguing, demanding... the messes, and the meltdowns.
After drop-off, I took a few deep breaths, shared some honest thoughts with God about who I wish I was but am not...about some dreams that never seem to go anywhere...about the frustrated feelings I've had about my kids lately. Even now, I sigh as I think through how hard marriage can be... how it requires so much effort to have a vibrant one, to have one that promises to hit a GOLDEN anniversary someday. Because I want our relationship to be better than just ok or good. :)
And I've thought about how God cares about me and my family so much more than I care about my mini-grove of fruit trees. He wants to water us, to prune us, and to bear fruit in our lives as well. He created us with specific needs and passions. Some of us need more sunshine or water than others. Some of us are more emotional and take longer to blossom and to bear fruit. But, guess what? We serve a patient and loving Heavenly Father. He cares! And He knows...everything about you and me.
When I feel like He doesn't see my needs or my dreams, I just need to look out at my trees and see how He allows them to grow so obediently and so patiently. It reminds me of the work He's doing in my heart and in my husband's and kids' lives as well. Thankfully, trees don't question God asking, "But why me, God? Why not sooner?" They just grow their roots deeper during a drought. They drink in the water and sunshine when the resources are available. They drop their leaves during the right season as well.
The thing that's hard about trusting God to keep His end of the bargain is to believe that He's shaping us during those long months when we can't see any fruit at all. With my trees and vines, it sometimes feels like I'm investing in them for nothing, like they're conspiring against me. So many of them are just weak sticks staring up at me... snickering... laughing. Others are more advanced... with vibrant green leaves but no fruit for months or even years, depending on the type of tree.
But, below the surface, the roots dig deep beneath the earth. They look for water in dark and unseen places. They prepare the way for the coming fruit. And that's how God works in us as well. He allows certain financial, professional, personal, and emotional struggles into our lives so that our roots grow deeper as well. He's asking you and me, "Will you trust me even when you can't see the fruit... even when there's no rain or sunshine for a long time?"
My answer is usually this: "Yes God, I'll trust you, but I'm not gonna be happy about it." I generally possess a less than totally joyful attitude about the obedience I know I must comply with. I complain to God each time I don't get my way or when God doesn't answer my prayers according to my time-line.
Can you imagine my fruit trees answering back to me with such cynicism? "Yes, we'll promise to grow, crazy lady that talks to us, but we won't be happy about it." As if my vines would retort, "Sure, we'll bear fruit, but we'll be grumpy during all the long hot months before that happens."
So, here's what God wants. He desires us to see ourselves like my fruit trees and vines. He doesn't want us to whine or gripe, though He is patient to listen when we are sad. Our loving Father wants us to do what we were created to do: to worship Him no matter what else is going on. He wishes for us to allow Him to water us with His Word and His Spirit so that we can grow spiritually.
God desires us to dig our roots down deep, especially during hard times...to find the water that truly quenches our souls. He longs for us to wait for His appointed time for the fruit that He promises. He wants to remind us that He won't give up on us...that He's not done with us yet. Philippians 1:6 says, "...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
John 15:5 says, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a woman remains in me and I in her, she will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do NOTHING." So, remember this: you have to set aside some time to be in God's presence. You can do that in the car, while you shower, during your workout at the gym, or even while you're using the bathroom (that's where I keep my devotional book...just keeping it real). :)
It doesn't matter where you sit or stand while you pray and read His Word. Your prayers don't have to be fancy or long. You don't have to read the Bible for hours at a time; try starting with five minutes a day. You can whisper, scream, or simply pray silently in your head. As it happens, I love to spend time with the Lord while I'm outside caring for my trees and vines. It reminds me of how He takes care of me, even when I'm impatient, irritable, and dubious.
God is the Master Gardener, so remember to rest in His care! I'll try to do the same. Share some of your favorite gardening stories or some thoughts about what God's been doing in your life. We'd love to hear from you. :)
For me, gardening is my peaceful place. I love to water my trees, to look for new blossoms, or to discover a new piece of fruit. I can even tell when one of my trees has grown by just one inch. I can see this clearly on my newer avocado tree. The new growth is smooth and light green, as it optimistically shoots up toward the sun. It's so exciting! And I'm a total nerd when it comes to gifts. Guess what I asked for this past Mother's Day? My Pixie tangerine tree, of course. :)
If you see me out watering, you might even catch me talking to one of my trees or laying hands on a struggling tree or grape-vine. I mean, if God cares about what I care about, then I figure He can heal one of my trees or vines as well. Just recently, I finally noticed some growth on one of my fussy grape-vines. He'd been so stubborn, refusing to grow a single leaf after months and months of watering. But, finally...one has popped out to say hello. And I can't wait to plant six more bare root cousins of his over the next few weeks. :)
Yet frequently, as I'm out taking care of my fourteen fruit trees and my plethora of vines, I feel like they're not producing much. Although the trees have tons of leaves, I still wonder if all of my efforts will ever pay off. I ponder, "When will I see some fruit?" But, then I gaze at my navel orange, mandarin-orange, Mexican lime, peach, plum, Delicious apple, green olive, tangerine, cherry, Haas avocado, apricot, pear-apple, and the two lemon trees. I love and know my trees because they are mine.
I breathe in the fragrance of their blossoms and then I feel like it's all worth it. After a couple of years, I see some of my citrus trees full of fruit and it reminds me that I'll see new fruit on the others as well...in due time. I think back to the one apple that my son and I enjoyed earlier this season. It was small, lonely, and picked a little bit too early, but super tasty and rewarding. It was ours...the one that we'd worked so hard to harvest.
As I think about each one of my trees and vines, I just have to picture my garden and think through where each one stands. Then, I can remember what each one looks like. I can visualize which one has yellowing leaves and needs less or more water than another. I can recall the joy I had this past week as my pear-apple finally evidenced some early fall blossoms. The fruit is FINALLY on its way after twenty months of chill-hours (I've prayed over this specific tree numerous times). YEAH!!!
Earlier today, when I dropped off all three of my kids at school, I felt a sense of relief, but it wasn't joyful, like the pear-apple. I felt more like my cherry tree that starts to look like it's gonna produce hundreds of cherries but then fizzles out and says, "No, I need more chill hours, ha-ha! The joke's on you." :(
This morning was chaotic, so I felt ecstatic to have some time to myself, to think, to text a few people...a few minutes just to pray and to shed a few tired tears. Some weeks are overwhelming. You know that your job as a mom is worth all of the effort, but if you're honest, you wonder when you're gonna see the fruit in your own kids' lives. Frequently, it's hard to focus on the hugs and kisses amidst the whining, arguing, demanding... the messes, and the meltdowns.
After drop-off, I took a few deep breaths, shared some honest thoughts with God about who I wish I was but am not...about some dreams that never seem to go anywhere...about the frustrated feelings I've had about my kids lately. Even now, I sigh as I think through how hard marriage can be... how it requires so much effort to have a vibrant one, to have one that promises to hit a GOLDEN anniversary someday. Because I want our relationship to be better than just ok or good. :)
And I've thought about how God cares about me and my family so much more than I care about my mini-grove of fruit trees. He wants to water us, to prune us, and to bear fruit in our lives as well. He created us with specific needs and passions. Some of us need more sunshine or water than others. Some of us are more emotional and take longer to blossom and to bear fruit. But, guess what? We serve a patient and loving Heavenly Father. He cares! And He knows...everything about you and me.
When I feel like He doesn't see my needs or my dreams, I just need to look out at my trees and see how He allows them to grow so obediently and so patiently. It reminds me of the work He's doing in my heart and in my husband's and kids' lives as well. Thankfully, trees don't question God asking, "But why me, God? Why not sooner?" They just grow their roots deeper during a drought. They drink in the water and sunshine when the resources are available. They drop their leaves during the right season as well.
The thing that's hard about trusting God to keep His end of the bargain is to believe that He's shaping us during those long months when we can't see any fruit at all. With my trees and vines, it sometimes feels like I'm investing in them for nothing, like they're conspiring against me. So many of them are just weak sticks staring up at me... snickering... laughing. Others are more advanced... with vibrant green leaves but no fruit for months or even years, depending on the type of tree.
But, below the surface, the roots dig deep beneath the earth. They look for water in dark and unseen places. They prepare the way for the coming fruit. And that's how God works in us as well. He allows certain financial, professional, personal, and emotional struggles into our lives so that our roots grow deeper as well. He's asking you and me, "Will you trust me even when you can't see the fruit... even when there's no rain or sunshine for a long time?"
My answer is usually this: "Yes God, I'll trust you, but I'm not gonna be happy about it." I generally possess a less than totally joyful attitude about the obedience I know I must comply with. I complain to God each time I don't get my way or when God doesn't answer my prayers according to my time-line.
Can you imagine my fruit trees answering back to me with such cynicism? "Yes, we'll promise to grow, crazy lady that talks to us, but we won't be happy about it." As if my vines would retort, "Sure, we'll bear fruit, but we'll be grumpy during all the long hot months before that happens."
So, here's what God wants. He desires us to see ourselves like my fruit trees and vines. He doesn't want us to whine or gripe, though He is patient to listen when we are sad. Our loving Father wants us to do what we were created to do: to worship Him no matter what else is going on. He wishes for us to allow Him to water us with His Word and His Spirit so that we can grow spiritually.
God desires us to dig our roots down deep, especially during hard times...to find the water that truly quenches our souls. He longs for us to wait for His appointed time for the fruit that He promises. He wants to remind us that He won't give up on us...that He's not done with us yet. Philippians 1:6 says, "...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
John 15:5 says, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a woman remains in me and I in her, she will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do NOTHING." So, remember this: you have to set aside some time to be in God's presence. You can do that in the car, while you shower, during your workout at the gym, or even while you're using the bathroom (that's where I keep my devotional book...just keeping it real). :)
It doesn't matter where you sit or stand while you pray and read His Word. Your prayers don't have to be fancy or long. You don't have to read the Bible for hours at a time; try starting with five minutes a day. You can whisper, scream, or simply pray silently in your head. As it happens, I love to spend time with the Lord while I'm outside caring for my trees and vines. It reminds me of how He takes care of me, even when I'm impatient, irritable, and dubious.
God is the Master Gardener, so remember to rest in His care! I'll try to do the same. Share some of your favorite gardening stories or some thoughts about what God's been doing in your life. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Labels: Christianity, faith, gardening, God
Saturday, September 04, 2010
In the Zone...
While working out at the gym last night, any onlooker would have seen me and said, "She is in the zone." You know when your music is too loud even for a teenager and your gaze is straight forward with the focus of a hunter? You want to stop but you can't because your mind is steady upon the task at hand.
My goal was to run four miles averaging 8 min 30 second miles. I also spent ten minutes on the elliptical machine and ended with ten minutes of heart pumping exercise on the bike. Over all, it was a great workout. My shins were killing due to some nagging shin splints, but I was there to work out and that's what I did.
Any time I start to feel wimpy due to pain or fatigue I just think about Gail Devers and her three Olympic championships amidst her battle with Graves' disease. She could have given up, but she didn't. Most people don't work out as hard as I do and I'm no Gail Devers, that's for sure.
But, I guess when I'm at the gym or out running a course, my goal is to get the most out of that precious time while I've got it. I'm also training for a few specific races coming up in our area. But mostly, I just feel a personal call to do my best while I'm able-bodied to actually work out and run the race ahead of me.
As I run my heart out or cycle like a maniac, I occasionally wonder if I'm living this sold out for my faith in God. Sometimes, it's easy to get so committed to our physical pursuits, such as our economic investments, our health endeavors, or our professional goals, that we fix our eyes on this temporary life rather than upon eternity. Isn't it the truth though?
When we do actually sit down to rest our eyes upon the Lord, we frequently aren't able to slow down. We are so focused on the tasks around us, that we can not be still for spiritual pursuits. But, here's the thing: if we can not rest before the Lord to meditate on His goals for us, then all the other stuff is done in vain.
No matter how much money you earn, no matter how physically fit you are, and no matter how brilliant your credentials make you, if you do not spend daily time in the presence of our Creator, your life's accomplishments are meaningless.
It's not that your efforts won't produce anything; the fact is that they will. But, you won't net eternal fruit from those goals if you don't first lay them in front of the alter before the Lord.
What does this look like? Sitting before the Lord doesn't have to be fancy; in fact it can be very practical. It requires focusing your spiritual lens to see through His eyes. Here's an example. At the start of your day, just pray a quick prayer to set the plethora of tasks ahead of you before God's agenda first.
Say, "God, whatever you have for today, that's what I want to be about." Ask God to use all things for His good. Ask Him to direct your steps so you can be about His eternal plan amidst your daily activities.
Some people would recognize me at the gym as the gal who sweats like a fountain. Others would say, "She's that weird woman who can actually be seen lifting up her hands in praise to God while she's running."
While some would label me as strange, I simply can't pass up that moment to praise God when an awesome worship song comes up on my running mix. Can you ignore the chance to praise the Lord who has given you everything you have, even the eyes you use to read this post?
As you pray throughout the day as well, ask God to guide your steps toward His purposes by giving you ears to hear His call. Ask Him to lead you to that conversation with a co-worker. Ask Him to show you how you can pray for that fellow mom who is going through way too much right now.
Begin to see other people the way He does. Ask Him to give you compassion for that person who always seems grumpy or difficult. You see, when we live for eternity, we actually interpret things differently, as God does.
So, challenge yourself to live out the fruit of His spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22)).
Let's get in the zone people... in the zone for the King. Let's fix our eyes upon His agenda, upon His will for our lives, upon His schedule for our day. In the midst of all the things we have to do, let's not forget to take some time out out to set our hearts right before Him.
Then, no matter what you're doing: working out, adjusting your checkbook, packing your kids' lunches, or logging in to your work computer, you'll be investing for eternity. Zone in fellow believers. This life is just a blink. Then, we're off to worship our God for eternity!
My goal was to run four miles averaging 8 min 30 second miles. I also spent ten minutes on the elliptical machine and ended with ten minutes of heart pumping exercise on the bike. Over all, it was a great workout. My shins were killing due to some nagging shin splints, but I was there to work out and that's what I did.
Any time I start to feel wimpy due to pain or fatigue I just think about Gail Devers and her three Olympic championships amidst her battle with Graves' disease. She could have given up, but she didn't. Most people don't work out as hard as I do and I'm no Gail Devers, that's for sure.
But, I guess when I'm at the gym or out running a course, my goal is to get the most out of that precious time while I've got it. I'm also training for a few specific races coming up in our area. But mostly, I just feel a personal call to do my best while I'm able-bodied to actually work out and run the race ahead of me.
As I run my heart out or cycle like a maniac, I occasionally wonder if I'm living this sold out for my faith in God. Sometimes, it's easy to get so committed to our physical pursuits, such as our economic investments, our health endeavors, or our professional goals, that we fix our eyes on this temporary life rather than upon eternity. Isn't it the truth though?
When we do actually sit down to rest our eyes upon the Lord, we frequently aren't able to slow down. We are so focused on the tasks around us, that we can not be still for spiritual pursuits. But, here's the thing: if we can not rest before the Lord to meditate on His goals for us, then all the other stuff is done in vain.
No matter how much money you earn, no matter how physically fit you are, and no matter how brilliant your credentials make you, if you do not spend daily time in the presence of our Creator, your life's accomplishments are meaningless.
It's not that your efforts won't produce anything; the fact is that they will. But, you won't net eternal fruit from those goals if you don't first lay them in front of the alter before the Lord.
What does this look like? Sitting before the Lord doesn't have to be fancy; in fact it can be very practical. It requires focusing your spiritual lens to see through His eyes. Here's an example. At the start of your day, just pray a quick prayer to set the plethora of tasks ahead of you before God's agenda first.
Say, "God, whatever you have for today, that's what I want to be about." Ask God to use all things for His good. Ask Him to direct your steps so you can be about His eternal plan amidst your daily activities.
Some people would recognize me at the gym as the gal who sweats like a fountain. Others would say, "She's that weird woman who can actually be seen lifting up her hands in praise to God while she's running."
While some would label me as strange, I simply can't pass up that moment to praise God when an awesome worship song comes up on my running mix. Can you ignore the chance to praise the Lord who has given you everything you have, even the eyes you use to read this post?
As you pray throughout the day as well, ask God to guide your steps toward His purposes by giving you ears to hear His call. Ask Him to lead you to that conversation with a co-worker. Ask Him to show you how you can pray for that fellow mom who is going through way too much right now.
Begin to see other people the way He does. Ask Him to give you compassion for that person who always seems grumpy or difficult. You see, when we live for eternity, we actually interpret things differently, as God does.
So, challenge yourself to live out the fruit of His spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22)).
Let's get in the zone people... in the zone for the King. Let's fix our eyes upon His agenda, upon His will for our lives, upon His schedule for our day. In the midst of all the things we have to do, let's not forget to take some time out out to set our hearts right before Him.
Then, no matter what you're doing: working out, adjusting your checkbook, packing your kids' lunches, or logging in to your work computer, you'll be investing for eternity. Zone in fellow believers. This life is just a blink. Then, we're off to worship our God for eternity!
Labels: athletics, Bible, God, purpose, worship
Monday, August 30, 2010
Beauty all around us...
There's so much beauty all around us. As I write this post, I'm staring at some picturesque white lilies and some velvety red roses. And as I bite into varying shades of green broccoli, I'm blown away by the limitless detail found in such seemingly unimportant florets.
I sip from my glass of Merlot and observe purples mixed with burgundies and again, I am flabbergasted. I glance to my right to watch my tan Labrador, who accompanies me downstairs while the rest of my family is upstairs (Praise the Lord, I get a few minutes to myself); I can't help but observe her noteworthy traits as well. Her fur changes tones from her ears to the top of her head and then from her back to her neck. The tans darken and lighten to bring forth a palette of richness and depth.
It might sound like I'm overdoing it to be awed by flowers, broccoli, a common glass of Merlot, and my seven-year-old Labrador, named Nugget. But, the truth is, that if we don't stop to be moved by some of the simple things around us, we must question when we will pause to notice the bigger things in life. Will we ever quit moving between the maddening cycle of waking, eating, working, running errands, eating, and sleeping only to awake again and start all over?
Every single night, there is a host of starry wonderment above us, but we rarely step outside to gaze upon its majesty. Even recently when Mars lined up into visual perfection with our moon, how many people stopped what they were doing to notice its glory? It won't happen again for tens of thousands of years and even then, many people continued on with their movie rental and their dessert.
How often do we really stop to evaluate the miracle of the human body? Of our very own heart beat? Of the blood that flows and of the cells that divide? Of the brain waves that glide effortlessly along, doing their own thing so involuntarily? Do we credit each breath as a miracle, one given to us from God above?
Though these simplistic thoughts might seem irrelevant to our daily lives, they actually serve an important function towards drawing us into the holy realm of the Almighty. When we observe His creation around us and see that it is good, we are drawn closer to Him. When we gaze upon His beautiful works, we are drawn a little bit closer to the One who allows us to make these observations in the first place.
What we usually do is speed past the goodness and the beauty around us; we miss the artfulness of the colorful flowers, the varied vegetables, a beautiful glass of liquid standing still, or a dog lying at rest with the light hitting its fur like a choreographed dance. We miss the Creator who created it all. We deny the Creator the glory due His name when we speed past the awesomeness staring us in the face.
Though this idea still puzzles some readers, I want to challenge some of you to hang on for a moment longer. Think about what happens when you sit outside under the stars, when you stare upon their intensity and their massivity. If you believe in God, they make you think upon Him. Even if you don't credit a Creator, you think about what's beyond our world. It leads you to something bigger, to something beyond yourself. And that is a good thing.
The result of our slowing down which leads to deeper reflections is the very reason that we must slow down. We must rest our glance upon the simple things touching our path on a daily basis. We must revel in the delicate fragrance of the roses around us. We should enjoy the multifaceted flavors in the foods we eat.
Let's enjoy the soft touch of our pet as we embrace her soothing fur. Let's take time to adore the Creator of that beautiful sunrise and the sunset as well. Let's take a few moments to set our eyes upon the starry sky, held together by the Master Artist.
When these experiences draw us closer to the one who is THE ONE, we are transformed more closely into His image. We begin to look like Him and ultimately, we are changed. Let's slow down fellow believers. Let's observe His creation all around us. Let's worship the King together.
Often times, as I hum praise songs during the day, I invite my kids to sing with me. I remind them about the Scripture in the Psalms that talks about how if we do not praise the Lord, then the rocks will cry out to Him in our stead. We worship by singing and we are called into that place by thanking Him for His awesomeness all around us throughout the day.
I sip from my glass of Merlot and observe purples mixed with burgundies and again, I am flabbergasted. I glance to my right to watch my tan Labrador, who accompanies me downstairs while the rest of my family is upstairs (Praise the Lord, I get a few minutes to myself); I can't help but observe her noteworthy traits as well. Her fur changes tones from her ears to the top of her head and then from her back to her neck. The tans darken and lighten to bring forth a palette of richness and depth.
It might sound like I'm overdoing it to be awed by flowers, broccoli, a common glass of Merlot, and my seven-year-old Labrador, named Nugget. But, the truth is, that if we don't stop to be moved by some of the simple things around us, we must question when we will pause to notice the bigger things in life. Will we ever quit moving between the maddening cycle of waking, eating, working, running errands, eating, and sleeping only to awake again and start all over?
Every single night, there is a host of starry wonderment above us, but we rarely step outside to gaze upon its majesty. Even recently when Mars lined up into visual perfection with our moon, how many people stopped what they were doing to notice its glory? It won't happen again for tens of thousands of years and even then, many people continued on with their movie rental and their dessert.
How often do we really stop to evaluate the miracle of the human body? Of our very own heart beat? Of the blood that flows and of the cells that divide? Of the brain waves that glide effortlessly along, doing their own thing so involuntarily? Do we credit each breath as a miracle, one given to us from God above?
Though these simplistic thoughts might seem irrelevant to our daily lives, they actually serve an important function towards drawing us into the holy realm of the Almighty. When we observe His creation around us and see that it is good, we are drawn closer to Him. When we gaze upon His beautiful works, we are drawn a little bit closer to the One who allows us to make these observations in the first place.
What we usually do is speed past the goodness and the beauty around us; we miss the artfulness of the colorful flowers, the varied vegetables, a beautiful glass of liquid standing still, or a dog lying at rest with the light hitting its fur like a choreographed dance. We miss the Creator who created it all. We deny the Creator the glory due His name when we speed past the awesomeness staring us in the face.
Though this idea still puzzles some readers, I want to challenge some of you to hang on for a moment longer. Think about what happens when you sit outside under the stars, when you stare upon their intensity and their massivity. If you believe in God, they make you think upon Him. Even if you don't credit a Creator, you think about what's beyond our world. It leads you to something bigger, to something beyond yourself. And that is a good thing.
The result of our slowing down which leads to deeper reflections is the very reason that we must slow down. We must rest our glance upon the simple things touching our path on a daily basis. We must revel in the delicate fragrance of the roses around us. We should enjoy the multifaceted flavors in the foods we eat.
Let's enjoy the soft touch of our pet as we embrace her soothing fur. Let's take time to adore the Creator of that beautiful sunrise and the sunset as well. Let's take a few moments to set our eyes upon the starry sky, held together by the Master Artist.
When these experiences draw us closer to the one who is THE ONE, we are transformed more closely into His image. We begin to look like Him and ultimately, we are changed. Let's slow down fellow believers. Let's observe His creation all around us. Let's worship the King together.
Often times, as I hum praise songs during the day, I invite my kids to sing with me. I remind them about the Scripture in the Psalms that talks about how if we do not praise the Lord, then the rocks will cry out to Him in our stead. We worship by singing and we are called into that place by thanking Him for His awesomeness all around us throughout the day.
Labels: beauty, Christian, family, God, worship
Friday, April 16, 2010
Darkness
When you're in a tunnel of darkness, you reach for the light as if you can already see it... or you close up in terror to protect yourself from imminent danger. You feel blind, unable to move.
When it's pitch black, you can't fathom the distance around you, except for its immensity and its vastness. You don't know how long the darkness will hold you captive in its evil grip. However, when your eyes capture a glimpse of the light ahead, you gain perspective and the obscurity begins to fade away. Depth perception is regained. You can see the world around you. You begin to hope.
When we go through tough spiritual or emotional experiences, we can feel we are falling indefinitely through a dark abyss. We try to cling to the truths we know as the deep chasm engulfs our hearts and minds. We grasp for air... but we can not feel it in our lungs. We look for the light, but we simply can not see it. We hope for a better perspective to save us from the pain that crushes us. But, we can't find it.
Is there true hope amidst the darkest hours? Many people feel that there is no true hope in this life. So, they turn to alcohol, drugs, medications, an affair, or even plain old busyness... to numb their pain. Unfortunately, those things only offer a temporary and dissatisfying source of relief. The giver of light tells us that He offers true hope: from the Bible and through the Holy Spirit.
The Bible says, "In him was life, and that life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness..." (John 1:4+5). Subsequently, Jesus says, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). The Bible anchors us during uncertain times, especially when our feelings deceive us.
The Holy Spirit also offers His peace: "But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. PEACE I leave with you; my peace I give you...Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid" (26-27). The Holy Spirit guides us when we can't find our own way. Even though it is hard to surrender to Him, we must turn to Him in faith.
It's hard to turn to the Bible and to trust God's Spirit when we feel like God just doesn't care. Sometimes, we don't believe that He even hears us. Or, it seems like we're simply going to get a busy signal forever, since we don't see signs of an escape! So, we just give up on God.
But, as my five-year-old reminded me this morning, God is the ONE to turn to. First, she asked me at the top of our stairs, "What's this story about (meaning our lives)?" "Is it about God?" she inquired. Then, a few minutes after we navigated our way downstairs, she hid a book behind her arms and asked me if I'd read her a story.
As I sat down on the couch next to her, she revealed the book she was hiding. It was my Bible...the one book I did not feel like reading. But, once we opened it up together, I was reminded of its power to give light, life, and hope...through the Holy Spirit. This morning, my daughter, Grace, helped me to see the light when my heart was trapped in darkness.
After we read for a bit, I explained how the words written in red were the words that Jesus spoke. She then grabbed her "Build-A-Bear" teddy bear that has a hole in his back. She removed the cloth shaped heart from the bear. Then, she placed it on Jesus' words with her whole hand over the heart. It was her way of trying to show Jesus that she loved Him, by giving Him her teddy-bear's pretend heart. If only we could show our faith so simply and so resolutely!
When it's pitch black, you can't fathom the distance around you, except for its immensity and its vastness. You don't know how long the darkness will hold you captive in its evil grip. However, when your eyes capture a glimpse of the light ahead, you gain perspective and the obscurity begins to fade away. Depth perception is regained. You can see the world around you. You begin to hope.
When we go through tough spiritual or emotional experiences, we can feel we are falling indefinitely through a dark abyss. We try to cling to the truths we know as the deep chasm engulfs our hearts and minds. We grasp for air... but we can not feel it in our lungs. We look for the light, but we simply can not see it. We hope for a better perspective to save us from the pain that crushes us. But, we can't find it.
Is there true hope amidst the darkest hours? Many people feel that there is no true hope in this life. So, they turn to alcohol, drugs, medications, an affair, or even plain old busyness... to numb their pain. Unfortunately, those things only offer a temporary and dissatisfying source of relief. The giver of light tells us that He offers true hope: from the Bible and through the Holy Spirit.
The Bible says, "In him was life, and that life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness..." (John 1:4+5). Subsequently, Jesus says, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). The Bible anchors us during uncertain times, especially when our feelings deceive us.
The Holy Spirit also offers His peace: "But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. PEACE I leave with you; my peace I give you...Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid" (26-27). The Holy Spirit guides us when we can't find our own way. Even though it is hard to surrender to Him, we must turn to Him in faith.
It's hard to turn to the Bible and to trust God's Spirit when we feel like God just doesn't care. Sometimes, we don't believe that He even hears us. Or, it seems like we're simply going to get a busy signal forever, since we don't see signs of an escape! So, we just give up on God.
But, as my five-year-old reminded me this morning, God is the ONE to turn to. First, she asked me at the top of our stairs, "What's this story about (meaning our lives)?" "Is it about God?" she inquired. Then, a few minutes after we navigated our way downstairs, she hid a book behind her arms and asked me if I'd read her a story.
As I sat down on the couch next to her, she revealed the book she was hiding. It was my Bible...the one book I did not feel like reading. But, once we opened it up together, I was reminded of its power to give light, life, and hope...through the Holy Spirit. This morning, my daughter, Grace, helped me to see the light when my heart was trapped in darkness.
After we read for a bit, I explained how the words written in red were the words that Jesus spoke. She then grabbed her "Build-A-Bear" teddy bear that has a hole in his back. She removed the cloth shaped heart from the bear. Then, she placed it on Jesus' words with her whole hand over the heart. It was her way of trying to show Jesus that she loved Him, by giving Him her teddy-bear's pretend heart. If only we could show our faith so simply and so resolutely!
Labels: darkness, God, hope, life
Sunday, November 29, 2009
The Giver of Dreams!
If you have dreams and passions, it's likely that they were given to you for a reason. The Giver of dreams made you for a purpose and attached your gifts as a part of the package. Since your gifts are from God and for Him as well, it makes sense for you to use them. For years, I've loved singing. After one disastrous singing class at the University several years ago, I assumed that singing publicly wasn't necessarily for me. And yet, I felt that tugging in my heart for several years after that initial attempt.
Although I've always enjoyed singing at church as a part of the congregation, I've never felt brave enough to sing up front. And then, I started attending the worship practices. And then, I was called upon to sing up front. There was a need, so even though my heart felt fearful and timid, I went for it. I wanted to offer up to God what was already HIS, ME, all of me, including my passions. Since I've always loved to sing, I knew this was an open door. And, it was awesome! Singing for the Lord was truly a blessing to my soul. I couldn't believe that my fears melted away and somehow, through His Spirit, I was brave.
Similarly, I have always loved writing. So, about three years ago, I started this blog. And then, I began pursuing various writing venues. Though extremely frustrating at times, I have had a variety of successes over the past nine months. In my pursuit of God's will and His timing, I have encountered some open doors. The greatest thing about writing is knowing that I'm connecting with other human beings: moms, sisters, friends, and even some strangers. To know that I've blessed someone else with my words of encouragement gives me satisfaction. It's so cool to know that God is using my gift because I'm allowing Him to.
So, what happens when we ignore our passions, gifts, or god-given talents? We turn the pages of the book, but the turning is labored, even exhausting. Instead, when we tune our instruments to God's tuning fork, we create beautiful music for Him. The result of giving your gifts to His kingdom is JOY! You feel the fruit of His spirit because you are doing what you were designed to do. Imagine a Lamborghini that always drove under the speed limit because it felt ill-equipped to drive fast. Everyone around it would stare in disbelief, waiting for it to zoom past. But, if it didn't get over its incorrect belief, the amazing car would never accelerate to its full potential.
As Christians, we limit ourselves if we hide inside of our own plethora of fears and entanglements. We think we aren't good enough, so we don't sign up. We don't feel competent, so we decide not to volunteer. We're not sure our story is significant, so we hold it in our own heads. But, the truth is that it's not about us. It's about HIM. When your eyes look away from yourself, you begin to look upward toward the KING's face. Then, your face begins to shine HIS glory. You look radiant. You sound beautiful. Your story touches others...because you reflect His power.
Go for your dreams! Take hold of your passions! Be who God made you to be! Take a leap of faith and see how God turns your uncertainties into solidified successes...for HIS GLORY! Remember that you "CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS" you! Share some of your amazing accomplishments for the Lord. I'd love to hear what God is doing in your life!
Although I've always enjoyed singing at church as a part of the congregation, I've never felt brave enough to sing up front. And then, I started attending the worship practices. And then, I was called upon to sing up front. There was a need, so even though my heart felt fearful and timid, I went for it. I wanted to offer up to God what was already HIS, ME, all of me, including my passions. Since I've always loved to sing, I knew this was an open door. And, it was awesome! Singing for the Lord was truly a blessing to my soul. I couldn't believe that my fears melted away and somehow, through His Spirit, I was brave.
Similarly, I have always loved writing. So, about three years ago, I started this blog. And then, I began pursuing various writing venues. Though extremely frustrating at times, I have had a variety of successes over the past nine months. In my pursuit of God's will and His timing, I have encountered some open doors. The greatest thing about writing is knowing that I'm connecting with other human beings: moms, sisters, friends, and even some strangers. To know that I've blessed someone else with my words of encouragement gives me satisfaction. It's so cool to know that God is using my gift because I'm allowing Him to.
So, what happens when we ignore our passions, gifts, or god-given talents? We turn the pages of the book, but the turning is labored, even exhausting. Instead, when we tune our instruments to God's tuning fork, we create beautiful music for Him. The result of giving your gifts to His kingdom is JOY! You feel the fruit of His spirit because you are doing what you were designed to do. Imagine a Lamborghini that always drove under the speed limit because it felt ill-equipped to drive fast. Everyone around it would stare in disbelief, waiting for it to zoom past. But, if it didn't get over its incorrect belief, the amazing car would never accelerate to its full potential.
As Christians, we limit ourselves if we hide inside of our own plethora of fears and entanglements. We think we aren't good enough, so we don't sign up. We don't feel competent, so we decide not to volunteer. We're not sure our story is significant, so we hold it in our own heads. But, the truth is that it's not about us. It's about HIM. When your eyes look away from yourself, you begin to look upward toward the KING's face. Then, your face begins to shine HIS glory. You look radiant. You sound beautiful. Your story touches others...because you reflect His power.
Go for your dreams! Take hold of your passions! Be who God made you to be! Take a leap of faith and see how God turns your uncertainties into solidified successes...for HIS GLORY! Remember that you "CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS" you! Share some of your amazing accomplishments for the Lord. I'd love to hear what God is doing in your life!
Labels: dreams, God, passions, the King
Monday, October 26, 2009
Going to God?
Going to God, is it really worth it? Or, does it just seem like a waste of time because He might not be listening anyways? Well, here's what King David had to say about it when he walked the Earth.
Psalm 34:4 says, "I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears."
Psalm 34:15 says, "The eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their cry."
Psalm 34:17+18 say, "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
Psalm 34:19+20 say, "A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all; he protects all of his bones, not one of them will be broken."
So, if King David had anything to say about it, he'd try to convince you that it's worth it to go to the Lord because He cares for you and answers you. One of the keys seems to be living a righteous life. If you know the Lord and are saved, then you can't ever lose your salvation, but it's clear from Scripture that you can break fellowship with Him because of sinful behavior. So, if you've been sinning lately, just get back on track by telling the Lord you're sorry and that you're thankful for His awesome forgiveness through Jesus' atonement on the cross. Start anew each day.
It's so great that we can approach God freely because of His Son's work on the cross. Take advantage of the fact that you can go to God for help. Some people aren't even aware that they have access to an all-knowing, all-loving, all-powerful, perfect, and gracious God who has their best interest in mind. What a blessing that we know we can approach the throne of GRACE!
Psalm 34:4 says, "I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears."
Psalm 34:15 says, "The eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their cry."
Psalm 34:17+18 say, "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
Psalm 34:19+20 say, "A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all; he protects all of his bones, not one of them will be broken."
So, if King David had anything to say about it, he'd try to convince you that it's worth it to go to the Lord because He cares for you and answers you. One of the keys seems to be living a righteous life. If you know the Lord and are saved, then you can't ever lose your salvation, but it's clear from Scripture that you can break fellowship with Him because of sinful behavior. So, if you've been sinning lately, just get back on track by telling the Lord you're sorry and that you're thankful for His awesome forgiveness through Jesus' atonement on the cross. Start anew each day.
It's so great that we can approach God freely because of His Son's work on the cross. Take advantage of the fact that you can go to God for help. Some people aren't even aware that they have access to an all-knowing, all-loving, all-powerful, perfect, and gracious God who has their best interest in mind. What a blessing that we know we can approach the throne of GRACE!
Labels: Bible, God, King David
Thursday, October 01, 2009
One Day at a Time!
You just have to take it one day at a time. Not one week at a time or one month at a time or one year at a time, just one day at a time. When my six-year-old son gets stressed about something about "tomorrow" I say, "But,we're just going to worry about today." I also remind him of my sister's favorite Bible verse that says, "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" (Matthew 6:34).
Isn't that the truth? Who has time to start freaking about tomorrow when there's already way too much crud just to get through today? But, we all do it. Somehow, even with a full-load of concerns for today, we start stressing over the "What Ifs" and the "What Abouts" of tomorrow. And the silly thing is that it doesn't even help. It actually harms us to fill our hearts with anxiety about the things that are out of our control anyways.
Many of you have heard the old adage, "Let Go and Let God!" The Christian-eze of some sayings drives me nuts because when you're in the midst of a struggle, you mainly just want a hug, not a slogan. But, this one's pretty good. For all of its goodness, I readily admit my "badness" about "letting go and letting God." I find it especially hard to trust God for my three kids. I feel like they're mine so I have to care for every part of their lives at every minute. The truth is that they're actually HIS. That means, HE will care for every part of their lives at every minute.
As moms, we frequently worry about our kids, but we also stress over lots of other stuff: money for groceries, bills, car problems, relationships, disputes, our family's health, and even how well we're doing as parents. We truly need to do our best at resolving the things that can be resolved. Maybe a phone call helps reduce an interest rate and takes some pressure off. Maybe a teacher/parent conference takes the edge off of some school concerns. Perhaps a prayer with another mom helps you feel more peaceful over a conflictual situation.
As you take it one day at a time, you have to be willing to chill out. Once you've made the calls, organized the calendar, and given everyone their vitamins, you have to take a mental break. As you relax from the intensity of it all, remember to pray for the things you can't really control anyways. Sometimes, you might even have to take it one minute at a time, and that's okay. God understands. Ultimately, even though it's tricky to do, you need to "LET GO AND LET GOD!" Whatever it is, whenever it is...just let go!
Isn't that the truth? Who has time to start freaking about tomorrow when there's already way too much crud just to get through today? But, we all do it. Somehow, even with a full-load of concerns for today, we start stressing over the "What Ifs" and the "What Abouts" of tomorrow. And the silly thing is that it doesn't even help. It actually harms us to fill our hearts with anxiety about the things that are out of our control anyways.
Many of you have heard the old adage, "Let Go and Let God!" The Christian-eze of some sayings drives me nuts because when you're in the midst of a struggle, you mainly just want a hug, not a slogan. But, this one's pretty good. For all of its goodness, I readily admit my "badness" about "letting go and letting God." I find it especially hard to trust God for my three kids. I feel like they're mine so I have to care for every part of their lives at every minute. The truth is that they're actually HIS. That means, HE will care for every part of their lives at every minute.
As moms, we frequently worry about our kids, but we also stress over lots of other stuff: money for groceries, bills, car problems, relationships, disputes, our family's health, and even how well we're doing as parents. We truly need to do our best at resolving the things that can be resolved. Maybe a phone call helps reduce an interest rate and takes some pressure off. Maybe a teacher/parent conference takes the edge off of some school concerns. Perhaps a prayer with another mom helps you feel more peaceful over a conflictual situation.
As you take it one day at a time, you have to be willing to chill out. Once you've made the calls, organized the calendar, and given everyone their vitamins, you have to take a mental break. As you relax from the intensity of it all, remember to pray for the things you can't really control anyways. Sometimes, you might even have to take it one minute at a time, and that's okay. God understands. Ultimately, even though it's tricky to do, you need to "LET GO AND LET GOD!" Whatever it is, whenever it is...just let go!
Labels: God, kids, let go, parents
Monday, August 17, 2009
Cast your Cares on the Lord
The awesome verse from Psalm 54 says to "Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall" (verse 22). It's hard for me to believe that he really wants to handle all of my worries. Does he really care about my son's asthma and my daughter's bloody noses? What about my other daughter's allergies; can they really matter to God? King David seemed to think that the Lord did care, so why is it so hard for me to believe the same truth here in the twenty-first century?
It's difficult to fathom that God would care for so many piddly little requests. I make so many petitions and then it seems like a lot of them just don't get answered. But, maybe I'm missing the point. When I pray for a need to be met and it doesn't happen right that instant, I need to reset my prayer request upon God's time-table. Maybe he's not ready to deliver me yet from certain struggles. Perhaps God is trying to increase my faith by waiting until the last minute to provide for a particular financial need. It's even possible that he's doing a mighty work of conviction in the person who recently harmed me.
As parents, we come to God with so many requests. We're hoping that the most important ones get answered before the emergency sets in. Also, we're not totally sure why God makes us wait so long for certain answers. Why can't he see how that sickness is making us depleted and hopeless? Why doesn't he see that a few extra dollars would help us to avoid using our credit card this month? If God would just change that other person's heart, then it would be easy. If only God could walk in our footsteps for a day and see how hard it is just to get through each day.
That's the point though, God did walk in our steps. He gets it. That's why he gave his son for us on the cross. We didn't deserve it but he saw that we simply could not do it on our own. We needed help, so he came through for us. When I begin to whine and feel sorry for myself, all I need to do to get rid of my cry-baby attitude is to picture Jesus up on the cross. Since he died for me and you and the neighbor across the street and the little boy at the market and the grandma at the picnic, there's no-one exempt of his hope. On second thought, can everyone find hope? God is not pushy. He is not rude. He is a perfect gentleman. If you're willing to see his sacrifice and accept it, he lovingly bestows his grace upon you. If you don't want to see it, he certainly doesn't bully you into it. Similarly, God won't force you to cast your cares on him. You have to make that choice as well.
I'm still not totally sure why God doesn't do certain things on my time-table. Even after years of praying, certain requests go unanswered and seem to be fairly hopeless. That's where I give up. I can't see the goodness in certain futile situations. But, I know that God is loving and that he has my best interest in mind. Paul said in Romans chapter eight "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (verse 28). Since I know that I love God, I can be sure that he is working things out in my life for good. This even includes the stuff that doesn't feel good or cozy or comfortable. I'd rather do without certain inconveniences and discomforts; however, if God promises to be looking out for my well-being, I can know that his plan and timing are best.
It's not easy to cast our cares on the Lord. It can feel like the phone signal is busy or jumbled up with interference. I guess that's where faith comes in and our trust in God's word. Have you had a hard time giving your worries over to God? If so, share your experience here. Let me pray for you as well.
It's difficult to fathom that God would care for so many piddly little requests. I make so many petitions and then it seems like a lot of them just don't get answered. But, maybe I'm missing the point. When I pray for a need to be met and it doesn't happen right that instant, I need to reset my prayer request upon God's time-table. Maybe he's not ready to deliver me yet from certain struggles. Perhaps God is trying to increase my faith by waiting until the last minute to provide for a particular financial need. It's even possible that he's doing a mighty work of conviction in the person who recently harmed me.
As parents, we come to God with so many requests. We're hoping that the most important ones get answered before the emergency sets in. Also, we're not totally sure why God makes us wait so long for certain answers. Why can't he see how that sickness is making us depleted and hopeless? Why doesn't he see that a few extra dollars would help us to avoid using our credit card this month? If God would just change that other person's heart, then it would be easy. If only God could walk in our footsteps for a day and see how hard it is just to get through each day.
That's the point though, God did walk in our steps. He gets it. That's why he gave his son for us on the cross. We didn't deserve it but he saw that we simply could not do it on our own. We needed help, so he came through for us. When I begin to whine and feel sorry for myself, all I need to do to get rid of my cry-baby attitude is to picture Jesus up on the cross. Since he died for me and you and the neighbor across the street and the little boy at the market and the grandma at the picnic, there's no-one exempt of his hope. On second thought, can everyone find hope? God is not pushy. He is not rude. He is a perfect gentleman. If you're willing to see his sacrifice and accept it, he lovingly bestows his grace upon you. If you don't want to see it, he certainly doesn't bully you into it. Similarly, God won't force you to cast your cares on him. You have to make that choice as well.
I'm still not totally sure why God doesn't do certain things on my time-table. Even after years of praying, certain requests go unanswered and seem to be fairly hopeless. That's where I give up. I can't see the goodness in certain futile situations. But, I know that God is loving and that he has my best interest in mind. Paul said in Romans chapter eight "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (verse 28). Since I know that I love God, I can be sure that he is working things out in my life for good. This even includes the stuff that doesn't feel good or cozy or comfortable. I'd rather do without certain inconveniences and discomforts; however, if God promises to be looking out for my well-being, I can know that his plan and timing are best.
It's not easy to cast our cares on the Lord. It can feel like the phone signal is busy or jumbled up with interference. I guess that's where faith comes in and our trust in God's word. Have you had a hard time giving your worries over to God? If so, share your experience here. Let me pray for you as well.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Trust God!
It is hard to trust God, especially when we pray, and pray, and pray, and pray, and pray, and pray, and pray, and pray, and pray, and we still don't see His answer. But, God's word is a great anchor to cling to, especially when our feelings are letting us down.
Remember to trust God even when you can't see, hear, smell, taste, or feel the answer yet. Here are some verses to help.
Genesis 49:18 says, "I trust in you for salvation, O Lord!" If we're sure we have our salvation from the Lord, all of the other requests sort of fall into place. We might need help with our finances, our marriage, our children, or a host of other concerns; however, if we're sure we're right with God, it eliminates the biggest worry of all. Make sure you've got that cleared up first before praying, and praying, and praying, and praying for all of the other stuff.
Leviticus 19:4 says, "Do not put your trust in idols or make metal images of gods for yourselves. I am the Lord your God." Here's the problem with living in the twenty-first century. The world offers us tons of short-cuts. If you're stressed, have a glass of wine, or two, or three... to calm yourself down. The world also offers tons of medications for every ailment from worrying, headaches, obesity, or even fatigue. What about at least trying a few of God's remedies first, like getting fit, seeking Him in daily meditation, or simplifying your life so you can get rid of some unnecessary worries?
Another short-cut that the world offers is cheating. If you're having problems in your marriage, find someone else, someone who's funnier and more romantic. Maybe you've heard the one about it being okay to cheat financially. It's okay to fib on your taxes or to pay less for something by doing funny math because you're in a bind after-all. But, the truth is, these short-cuts are actually problematic because they lead us farther away from the true answer, which is God. Remember not to trust in the idols and gods that the world offers you. They're hollow and dissatisfying, while God on the other hand is the real deal.
Another convicting verse is Leviticus 20:6. It's pretty blunt and you might not think it applies to you, but here goes. “I will also turn against those who commit spiritual prostitution by putting their trust in mediums or in those who consult the spirits of the dead. I will cut them off from the community." Maybe you haven't been committing "spiritual prostitution" but have you been putting your trust in someone else rather than in God? Maybe you've considered another religion even because this Christianity stuff just isn't working out. Though it is tempting to trust in other people and in other sources of spirituality, there is only one true Source; it is the God of the Bible.
2Chronicles 13:18 reminds us that when we trust in God, we defeat our foes. "So Judah defeated Israel on that occasion because they trusted in the Lord, the God of their ancestors." If we seek the Lord, we will defeat our enemies, which includes life's injustices and all that other bad stuff. That's because God upholds His end of the bargain. When we're on His team, we always win. The results might not always evidence themselves on this side of heaven, but remember that God will bring everything into judgment, including the unfair things in this life. Stay on His team; the scoreboard will reflect a win by the end of the game.
What if you feel that your life is too far gone? Well, think again. Isaiah 50:10 is such a cool verse. It says, "Who among you fears the Lord and obeys his servant? If you are walking in darkness, without a ray of light, trust in the Lord and rely on your God." This verse offers a white flag of peace for your dark choices. Don't worry that you've messed up because we all have. Just get back on track by seeking Him. It's never too late. Don't let the darkness overtake you like a black-hole because there is hope.
One of my favorites, and probably one of yours as well, is Proverbs 3:5+6 which states, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths." We can try to figure it all out by ourselves or we can surrender it all to God instead. We have to trust Him again and again and again and again because He is trustworthy. He will direct our paths.
Remember to trust God even when you can't see, hear, smell, taste, or feel the answer yet. Here are some verses to help.
Genesis 49:18 says, "I trust in you for salvation, O Lord!" If we're sure we have our salvation from the Lord, all of the other requests sort of fall into place. We might need help with our finances, our marriage, our children, or a host of other concerns; however, if we're sure we're right with God, it eliminates the biggest worry of all. Make sure you've got that cleared up first before praying, and praying, and praying, and praying for all of the other stuff.
Leviticus 19:4 says, "Do not put your trust in idols or make metal images of gods for yourselves. I am the Lord your God." Here's the problem with living in the twenty-first century. The world offers us tons of short-cuts. If you're stressed, have a glass of wine, or two, or three... to calm yourself down. The world also offers tons of medications for every ailment from worrying, headaches, obesity, or even fatigue. What about at least trying a few of God's remedies first, like getting fit, seeking Him in daily meditation, or simplifying your life so you can get rid of some unnecessary worries?
Another short-cut that the world offers is cheating. If you're having problems in your marriage, find someone else, someone who's funnier and more romantic. Maybe you've heard the one about it being okay to cheat financially. It's okay to fib on your taxes or to pay less for something by doing funny math because you're in a bind after-all. But, the truth is, these short-cuts are actually problematic because they lead us farther away from the true answer, which is God. Remember not to trust in the idols and gods that the world offers you. They're hollow and dissatisfying, while God on the other hand is the real deal.
Another convicting verse is Leviticus 20:6. It's pretty blunt and you might not think it applies to you, but here goes. “I will also turn against those who commit spiritual prostitution by putting their trust in mediums or in those who consult the spirits of the dead. I will cut them off from the community." Maybe you haven't been committing "spiritual prostitution" but have you been putting your trust in someone else rather than in God? Maybe you've considered another religion even because this Christianity stuff just isn't working out. Though it is tempting to trust in other people and in other sources of spirituality, there is only one true Source; it is the God of the Bible.
2Chronicles 13:18 reminds us that when we trust in God, we defeat our foes. "So Judah defeated Israel on that occasion because they trusted in the Lord, the God of their ancestors." If we seek the Lord, we will defeat our enemies, which includes life's injustices and all that other bad stuff. That's because God upholds His end of the bargain. When we're on His team, we always win. The results might not always evidence themselves on this side of heaven, but remember that God will bring everything into judgment, including the unfair things in this life. Stay on His team; the scoreboard will reflect a win by the end of the game.
What if you feel that your life is too far gone? Well, think again. Isaiah 50:10 is such a cool verse. It says, "Who among you fears the Lord and obeys his servant? If you are walking in darkness, without a ray of light, trust in the Lord and rely on your God." This verse offers a white flag of peace for your dark choices. Don't worry that you've messed up because we all have. Just get back on track by seeking Him. It's never too late. Don't let the darkness overtake you like a black-hole because there is hope.
One of my favorites, and probably one of yours as well, is Proverbs 3:5+6 which states, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths." We can try to figure it all out by ourselves or we can surrender it all to God instead. We have to trust Him again and again and again and again because He is trustworthy. He will direct our paths.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
When God's on a Coffee Break
Sometimes it feels that God is on a long coffee break. You know He's there. You pray to Him for your needs and wants. You even thank Him for your blessings and you apologize for the wrongdoings in your life. In spite of these efforts, it can feel like you're getting a busy signal or an out-of-the-office auto response. As believers, is there a way to reconcile God's omnipresence with the void of hearing His voice?
Someone who could definitely relate to feeling that God was on a break was Job. Can you imagine the tragedy that he went through? First, he loses all of his children from various incidents. The soldiers weren't enough to take them all out simultaneously, so the house falls down on the others while they're having a party. As if this atrocity weren't enough, Job's farms are destroyed and his corporate life collapses. Well, at least he had his health, right, for a few more days? But, even that takes a tumultuous downturn and eventually, he becomes so sick that his wife tells him to curse God and to die.
Job decides to keep pressing on, but at least he's still got a few friends left, right? Not! Even his friends abandon him and accuse him of being a terrible person because they can't come up with a better reason to justify his horrific losses. Going on at this point would seem close to impossible. No kids, no job, poor health, no friends. I'm surprised Job didn't consider killing himself. It would have been an easy way to end his pathetic life. Have you ever felt that giving up would simply be the best response? Even ending your own life might seem easier than staying the course?
That's not how Job responded. Instead of being angry and hostile, Job responded honorably and respectfully. He was a faithful Jewish man, who walked the talk that he promoted throughout his lifetime. Just because his life went to hell did not mean that he was going to curse His God who seemed to be daydreaming on an extended vacation.
We get to thinking that this life is all about our expectations being met and not about the agenda that God has for deepening our spiritual lives. We see things in terms of being happy, healthy, and financially secure. When sickness enters the picture or the loss of a loved one, we frequently punch our fists into the air at a seemingly invisible God. Even atheists become theists when things go badly enough, blaming the ominous spirit who doesn't really exist. But, where do we get the right to blame God for misfortune and strife? Is He only our friend when life is good?
I am reminded of the Footprints poem where the person walking along the beach realizes she has not actually been alone during her struggle-filled journey. Upon seeing only one set of footprints, her immediate assumption was that God was absent, gone on a coffee break. She was alone. But, by the end of the poem, God breaks through the chaos and reminds her that He was there the whole time, carrying her in His loving arms. That's why she didn't see two sets of footprints.
If you're going through a time of doubt, loneliness, or tremendous suffering, I hope that you are reminded that God loves you and that His coffee break may be shorter than you think. He might even be in line for two cappuccinos while you're waiting for them to call out your name.
Someone who could definitely relate to feeling that God was on a break was Job. Can you imagine the tragedy that he went through? First, he loses all of his children from various incidents. The soldiers weren't enough to take them all out simultaneously, so the house falls down on the others while they're having a party. As if this atrocity weren't enough, Job's farms are destroyed and his corporate life collapses. Well, at least he had his health, right, for a few more days? But, even that takes a tumultuous downturn and eventually, he becomes so sick that his wife tells him to curse God and to die.
Job decides to keep pressing on, but at least he's still got a few friends left, right? Not! Even his friends abandon him and accuse him of being a terrible person because they can't come up with a better reason to justify his horrific losses. Going on at this point would seem close to impossible. No kids, no job, poor health, no friends. I'm surprised Job didn't consider killing himself. It would have been an easy way to end his pathetic life. Have you ever felt that giving up would simply be the best response? Even ending your own life might seem easier than staying the course?
That's not how Job responded. Instead of being angry and hostile, Job responded honorably and respectfully. He was a faithful Jewish man, who walked the talk that he promoted throughout his lifetime. Just because his life went to hell did not mean that he was going to curse His God who seemed to be daydreaming on an extended vacation.
We get to thinking that this life is all about our expectations being met and not about the agenda that God has for deepening our spiritual lives. We see things in terms of being happy, healthy, and financially secure. When sickness enters the picture or the loss of a loved one, we frequently punch our fists into the air at a seemingly invisible God. Even atheists become theists when things go badly enough, blaming the ominous spirit who doesn't really exist. But, where do we get the right to blame God for misfortune and strife? Is He only our friend when life is good?
I am reminded of the Footprints poem where the person walking along the beach realizes she has not actually been alone during her struggle-filled journey. Upon seeing only one set of footprints, her immediate assumption was that God was absent, gone on a coffee break. She was alone. But, by the end of the poem, God breaks through the chaos and reminds her that He was there the whole time, carrying her in His loving arms. That's why she didn't see two sets of footprints.
If you're going through a time of doubt, loneliness, or tremendous suffering, I hope that you are reminded that God loves you and that His coffee break may be shorter than you think. He might even be in line for two cappuccinos while you're waiting for them to call out your name.
Labels: coffee break, faith, God
Friday, May 22, 2009
Opposites Attract
The well-known adage "Opposites Attract" is no stranger to marriage partners.
Isn't it incongruous that two people can be so different and yet be called to stay
married to one another forever? My husband and I have come to realize that our
differences are actually some of our greatest strengths as a couple. Though this has been
hard to grasp, since we're both unrelentingly stubborn, we have learned to sing a
beautiful melody together over the years.
The funny differences are seen in our daily lives. I drink coffee, my husband drinks tea.
I love red wine, my husband loves white. I like my meat cooked well-done. My husband
loves his meat while it's still moo-ing. My husband insists upon reading the instruction
manual from front to back while I prefer just giving it a go myself. Interestingly
though, I prefer to ask for directions, while my husband likes to use his own internal
GPS system.
For some couples, one person likes their food bland while the other likes it spicy. One
enjoys jazz music, while the other likes classical. The wife loves blue and the husband
loves red. We're just different and we realized it almost the instant that the honeymoon
ended.
Some of the more fatal differences in a marriage deal with varying communication or
conflict resolution styles. One spouse tends to be vocal while the other closes up into
the fetal position, holding onto his or her feelings. One spouse yells to express his or
her emotions while the other punishes silently. The wife might love quality time; the
husband just wants physical touch. One of you is extroverted but the other is more
introverted.
It can feel like you're missing each other at times. You might even wonder why God put
the two of you together. You think "How can something this difficult be God's
will?" The truth is, God knew about your marriage before you were even born and He
doesn't make mistakes.
The Bible says "...a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,
and they will become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Two independent people come together
to be united as one. The math of marriage is tricky stuff because one plus one equals one
in God's economy. You can spend a lifetime trying to alter the math, but it will be like
trying to defy gravity.
Is it possible for two opposite people to stay married? Absolutely. How do I know this?
I've experienced it in my own marriage and have felt God's hand upon us as a couple and
as individuals. Seeing God's plan helps us when we are lacking perspective.
God's word tells us, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper
suitable for him" (Genesis 2:18). In the New Testament, we are encouraged by Paul's
words: "I can do everything through (Christ) who gives me strength"
(Philippians 4:13).
Additionally, Paul talks about our citizenship being from heaven. The world tells us to
trade in our spouse for a new one, but that's not what citizens of heaven do. Instead, we
are called to "...press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called
(us) heavenward in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:14).
Our differences can be sources of encouragement and empowerment. We can cling together
knowing that God's plan is bigger than our own. Where one is weak, the other is strong.
If the wife is good with money and the husband struggles with over-spending, he should
humbly defer to her financial wisdom. If the husband maintains perspective during
stressful situations, while the wife is a perpetual worrier, she should entrust herself
to his serenity. The two become one, remember? Cling together.
Marriage is like a beautiful butterfly floating in the wind. There are so many fantastic
sights to be seen and songs to be heard. But, if the caterpillar resists the
transformation he must undergo in order to become a butterfly, he will never experience
the wonders beyond that process.
When we tenaciously cling to our way as the best or only way, we forfeit the joy of
learning from our spouse. Many times my spouse and I have gotten into meaningless
arguments that could have been avoided if we had more readily submitted to each other and
to the Lord. But, after eleven years of marriage, we have begun to see one another's
perspectives and strengths. Instead of acting like two bullies in a boxing ring, we're
learning to dance together like two coordinated hummingbirds.
Couples see right away that marriage is hard work, but you too can experience the joys of
marriage. It begins by being humble with each other. Likewise it is integral that you two
spend time together in prayer and in God's word. If possible, find an experienced mentor
couple who can share wisdom from their own failures and triumphs.
If you model these actions, your marriage will not instantly become great, but you will
be able to hear God's voice and to obey Him. Additionally, as you defer to the Lord as a
couple, you will begin to experience His peace as a married couple, not just as
individuals.
The Lord is so clever when He destines two souls to be together. His funny math adds up,
while it defies our empirical conclusion. In God's wisdom, you are with the right
partner. It might be difficult to believe that reality at times, but over the years, you
will see that God knew what He was doing by putting the two of you together. Try taking
God at His word and see how it plays out. He's pretty good at being right.
Labels: God, marriage, opposites
