Sunday, February 05, 2012
Relationships
Relationships are tricky. We've all got those friends or family members that light us up like a fireball dropping from the sun. Now you're confused right? Like, is that a good thing or a bad thing? Well, both actually. We naturally want to be around the ones who fire us up and make us passionate about life. Those are the good fireballs. But, we're all too familiar with those people who drag us down into the pit of despair. The ones who mainly talk about how life sucks or about how someone else sucks or about how the angle of the sun today, sucks. Those are the challenging fireballs.
The reality is that we have to deal with both kinds of people because God has given us a variety of relationships. Our weekly interactions involve relatives, friends, co-workers, school acquaintances, neighbors, church members, monsters, aliens, etc. (ok, just kidding about the last two). And the way we respond to both types of fireballs is important if we want to be used for God's purposes! The key to all of this is our perspective because it dictates how we'll react to both kinds of individuals. It's generally easy to interact with the positive people in our lives. In fact, we can't wait to hang out with them. But it's another thing entirely to put up with the ones who weigh us down.
I have this friend who's been like a sister to me since junior high. Neither of us is perfect, but we just naturally extend grace to the other person. In short, we "get" each other! Even if one of us is irritable, we just brush it off cuz we realize it's nothing personal. We genuinely enjoy our time together and never have to waste time being fake. Our husbands have the same name. Our first kids were born on the exact same day. The friendship works, you know?
Then there are those relationships that just require more energy. No matter how you slice it, it's always more intense. You say one thing, but she hears another. You meant such-and-such but it got totally blown out of proportion. You know what I'm talking about! It's like right away, THAT person came to mind. And my question for the tricky relationships is, how should we react? And does our response really make a difference for eternity? Do we really have to bear all that fruit that Paul talks about in Galatians chapter five, like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness and blah, blah, blah? (I think we all know the answer to that one. The answer is YES!!!) :)
God's been faithful to show me that He has a specific plan for both the blissful and the difficult relationships in our lives. The easy ones are necessary because God knows we need that time of restoration and encouragement. You can just chill out and talk about whatever and it doesn't even matter. Even if a few euphemisms (or worse) slip out, you're not gonna feel judged. In short, you can be real! You get to ditch the pretenses and the sugar-coated explanations. That person is there to lift you up along the way. And you're there to guide and love her as well!
But don't think that God doesn't use the rough-edged relationships too. God has two main purposes for those ones: first to change us and second to minister to them. When we begin to care for the unlovable, guess what? It makes us more loving along the way. When we can't hear another thing about this or that from you-know-who, it makes us more patient (you know it's totally true). And when we accept someone's apology for the hundredth time, we learn to be more forgiving as well. During this process of loving people with Christ's compassion, we get to be the road signs that lead these people closer to heaven. They actually get to see Jesus living in us!
But sometimes we just want to quit. The difficult fireballs feel too overwhelming. He is too mean. She is too weird. That neighbor is too loud. Our flesh takes over and wants to shout back. Our tears become too heavy and we'd rather just let them go to hell instead of heaven. Why forgive when it's not even making a difference anyways? How can our listening ears actually make an ounce of change to that impossible situation? Then again, our struggle is not against flesh and blood, remember? Ephesians 6:12 says we're really dealing with "the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."
So when you encounter that acquaintance at work who makes you want to run for the EXIT door the instant you see him, try to rethink your motives. Do you think it's an accident that his cubicle sits right across from yours? You see, with God, nothing happens by coincidence. If someone's in your life, it's because the Lord put them there, not because the stars were aligned incorrectly. "Chance" is not a Christian concept, even though we sometimes wish it was (because then we would have an excuse with certain people, right?). You know that family member that you hope responds "No" to the upcoming Evite event? Maybe you could pray for them to attend the party instead of silently wishing that they'd vanish to a different planet.
When we see things through God's eyes, we achieve a really refreshing perspective! Now that doesn't always mean that we get it the first time or the hundredth time or even the thousandth time. But with God's help, we eventually see that God wants to work through all of our relationships, the easy ones and the hard ones. Three simple steps help us along that path. First, pray more! Ask for God's direction and wisdom for all of your relationships. Second, read the Bible more! God's word is there to guide us and to direct our steps. Third, let the Holy spirit work through you. As you do those first two things, God's spirit begins to take over and minister through you, helping you to bless others and to endure life's challenges.
Remember that the positive and negative fireballs are intentionally placed in your life by God. But it's all how you choose to see them. Will you allow God to minister to your friends, family members, neighbors, your spouse, or that feisty co-worker... through YOU? Ask Him what He thinks! The Holy Spirit will show you the next step if you ask Him for help along the way. God will give you rest during some simple downtime with a loved one (there's a time for that as well). But he'll also call you to some uglier, less comfortable situations too.
Fireballs are in our lives, no matter what. So let's take some time to thank God for both types this week, the good ones and the less good ones. When we lose perspective on things, we see things as good and bad. We put sparkles and fireworks around the easy stuff in our lives but paint dark black strokes around the imperfect challenges. Remember that God is present at all times and at work in all of our circumstances. He loves to work "for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28).
The reality is that we have to deal with both kinds of people because God has given us a variety of relationships. Our weekly interactions involve relatives, friends, co-workers, school acquaintances, neighbors, church members, monsters, aliens, etc. (ok, just kidding about the last two). And the way we respond to both types of fireballs is important if we want to be used for God's purposes! The key to all of this is our perspective because it dictates how we'll react to both kinds of individuals. It's generally easy to interact with the positive people in our lives. In fact, we can't wait to hang out with them. But it's another thing entirely to put up with the ones who weigh us down.
I have this friend who's been like a sister to me since junior high. Neither of us is perfect, but we just naturally extend grace to the other person. In short, we "get" each other! Even if one of us is irritable, we just brush it off cuz we realize it's nothing personal. We genuinely enjoy our time together and never have to waste time being fake. Our husbands have the same name. Our first kids were born on the exact same day. The friendship works, you know?
Then there are those relationships that just require more energy. No matter how you slice it, it's always more intense. You say one thing, but she hears another. You meant such-and-such but it got totally blown out of proportion. You know what I'm talking about! It's like right away, THAT person came to mind. And my question for the tricky relationships is, how should we react? And does our response really make a difference for eternity? Do we really have to bear all that fruit that Paul talks about in Galatians chapter five, like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness and blah, blah, blah? (I think we all know the answer to that one. The answer is YES!!!) :)
God's been faithful to show me that He has a specific plan for both the blissful and the difficult relationships in our lives. The easy ones are necessary because God knows we need that time of restoration and encouragement. You can just chill out and talk about whatever and it doesn't even matter. Even if a few euphemisms (or worse) slip out, you're not gonna feel judged. In short, you can be real! You get to ditch the pretenses and the sugar-coated explanations. That person is there to lift you up along the way. And you're there to guide and love her as well!
But don't think that God doesn't use the rough-edged relationships too. God has two main purposes for those ones: first to change us and second to minister to them. When we begin to care for the unlovable, guess what? It makes us more loving along the way. When we can't hear another thing about this or that from you-know-who, it makes us more patient (you know it's totally true). And when we accept someone's apology for the hundredth time, we learn to be more forgiving as well. During this process of loving people with Christ's compassion, we get to be the road signs that lead these people closer to heaven. They actually get to see Jesus living in us!
But sometimes we just want to quit. The difficult fireballs feel too overwhelming. He is too mean. She is too weird. That neighbor is too loud. Our flesh takes over and wants to shout back. Our tears become too heavy and we'd rather just let them go to hell instead of heaven. Why forgive when it's not even making a difference anyways? How can our listening ears actually make an ounce of change to that impossible situation? Then again, our struggle is not against flesh and blood, remember? Ephesians 6:12 says we're really dealing with "the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."
So when you encounter that acquaintance at work who makes you want to run for the EXIT door the instant you see him, try to rethink your motives. Do you think it's an accident that his cubicle sits right across from yours? You see, with God, nothing happens by coincidence. If someone's in your life, it's because the Lord put them there, not because the stars were aligned incorrectly. "Chance" is not a Christian concept, even though we sometimes wish it was (because then we would have an excuse with certain people, right?). You know that family member that you hope responds "No" to the upcoming Evite event? Maybe you could pray for them to attend the party instead of silently wishing that they'd vanish to a different planet.
When we see things through God's eyes, we achieve a really refreshing perspective! Now that doesn't always mean that we get it the first time or the hundredth time or even the thousandth time. But with God's help, we eventually see that God wants to work through all of our relationships, the easy ones and the hard ones. Three simple steps help us along that path. First, pray more! Ask for God's direction and wisdom for all of your relationships. Second, read the Bible more! God's word is there to guide us and to direct our steps. Third, let the Holy spirit work through you. As you do those first two things, God's spirit begins to take over and minister through you, helping you to bless others and to endure life's challenges.
Remember that the positive and negative fireballs are intentionally placed in your life by God. But it's all how you choose to see them. Will you allow God to minister to your friends, family members, neighbors, your spouse, or that feisty co-worker... through YOU? Ask Him what He thinks! The Holy Spirit will show you the next step if you ask Him for help along the way. God will give you rest during some simple downtime with a loved one (there's a time for that as well). But he'll also call you to some uglier, less comfortable situations too.
Fireballs are in our lives, no matter what. So let's take some time to thank God for both types this week, the good ones and the less good ones. When we lose perspective on things, we see things as good and bad. We put sparkles and fireworks around the easy stuff in our lives but paint dark black strokes around the imperfect challenges. Remember that God is present at all times and at work in all of our circumstances. He loves to work "for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28).
Labels: faith, family, friendships, God, relationships
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Halloween costumes
I love Halloween. But sometimes Christians tend to paint a negative face on this cultural holiday. And don't get me wrong, it can be gruesome and nasty. I mean, some of the flyers in the mail have been tossed immediately into the recycling bin to avoid younger eyes in our household. But, let's not forget to have fun at the same time!
As we've hunted for costumes, we've had an especially impossible time finding one in particular: angry birds. And not just the red one that everyone knows about. Our son wants the black bomber one. After calling like a thousand stores, visiting about a hundred of them, and web-hunting until my eyes practically popped out of my head, I had to give up in shameful defeat. But we did find one site that still has the red bird for fifty dollars plus shipping. So at this point, I'm trying to decide if I could actually toss over fifty plus dollars for one kid costume.
Our daughters already picked theirs: Spider-girl and Princess-of-thieves. They look adorable and have been practicing the fighting parts all week long. The angry glares, the poised fighting positions, battles with one another, the daggers, the swords... the quick hand movements. And it got me thinking... that when they wear these costumes, they actually feel like those strong and brave characters. Since we're still not sure what our son will end up wearing, let's just think on these two for a moment.
What if we covered ourselves with truth and absorbed the full message available to us? By believing the things the Bible says about us once we know Jesus, we would actually live differently. Let's take three of the big ones. First, if we covered ourselves in love, we would start to love others better. Second, if we wore a cape of forgiveness, can you imagine how we would start to forgive others and ourselves? Third, let's try to costume ourselves with kindness. Wouldn't our words be so different and our actions as well?
When the kids take off their costumes, they discontinue the role play. And we do the same thing with our faith. We feel brave and strong and spiritually fed in the middle of our quiet times or during Bible study or for one hour on Sundays. But then we forget, and our lives reflect that lost concept of truth that had momentarily empowered us just minutes or hours before.
So, let's get practical! Try to wear something as a visible reminder of who we are in Christ. It could be really simple like a ring, a bracelet, or a necklace. Maybe it's a tattoo for some of you who can brave the needle thing. Perhaps it's just a sticky note in your car or in your wallet so that every time you see it you're reminded of a verse that keeps things in perspective. This October 31st you'll likely wear a fun costume to your church or to a party, but try to focus on an eternal costume that outweighs them all.
As we've hunted for costumes, we've had an especially impossible time finding one in particular: angry birds. And not just the red one that everyone knows about. Our son wants the black bomber one. After calling like a thousand stores, visiting about a hundred of them, and web-hunting until my eyes practically popped out of my head, I had to give up in shameful defeat. But we did find one site that still has the red bird for fifty dollars plus shipping. So at this point, I'm trying to decide if I could actually toss over fifty plus dollars for one kid costume.
Our daughters already picked theirs: Spider-girl and Princess-of-thieves. They look adorable and have been practicing the fighting parts all week long. The angry glares, the poised fighting positions, battles with one another, the daggers, the swords... the quick hand movements. And it got me thinking... that when they wear these costumes, they actually feel like those strong and brave characters. Since we're still not sure what our son will end up wearing, let's just think on these two for a moment.
What if we covered ourselves with truth and absorbed the full message available to us? By believing the things the Bible says about us once we know Jesus, we would actually live differently. Let's take three of the big ones. First, if we covered ourselves in love, we would start to love others better. Second, if we wore a cape of forgiveness, can you imagine how we would start to forgive others and ourselves? Third, let's try to costume ourselves with kindness. Wouldn't our words be so different and our actions as well?
When the kids take off their costumes, they discontinue the role play. And we do the same thing with our faith. We feel brave and strong and spiritually fed in the middle of our quiet times or during Bible study or for one hour on Sundays. But then we forget, and our lives reflect that lost concept of truth that had momentarily empowered us just minutes or hours before.
So, let's get practical! Try to wear something as a visible reminder of who we are in Christ. It could be really simple like a ring, a bracelet, or a necklace. Maybe it's a tattoo for some of you who can brave the needle thing. Perhaps it's just a sticky note in your car or in your wallet so that every time you see it you're reminded of a verse that keeps things in perspective. This October 31st you'll likely wear a fun costume to your church or to a party, but try to focus on an eternal costume that outweighs them all.
Labels: Bible, costumes, faith, Halloween
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Balanced Health
Two of my primary passions are cooking and eating. For me, the excitement begins by choosing as many fresh and organic ingredients as possible. Then my imagination runs wild as I create most of my own healthy recipes based on the plethora of foods from my kitchen or my own backyard.
If I have three organic chicken breasts, some fresh bell peppers, cilantro, and cheese, then I opt for sizzling fajitas. If I get down to a bare cupboard with flour, sugar, and salt, then I go for some amazing crepes, filled with eggs and cheese (while I send my hubby to the store for some sweet strawberries and whipped cream).
The key is working with what you've already got at home. If you have to run out for ten more ingredients (some that you've never even heard of), you're less likely to cook from home. And that's when take-out starts to sound like a cheaper and better option. But it's not!
The thing about well-rounded but tasteful cooking, is that you have to indulge frequently. Scrumptious consumption occurs by using high quality ingredients, such as organic and responsibly grown fruits and veggies reflecting every color of the rainbow. These colorful choices reward your taste buds while providing healthful antioxidants and vitamins.
But you've got to try new things! Instead of just carrots and broccoli, saute some eggplant and blueberries as well. Add in your favorite meat with some olive oil and a bit of balsamic vinegar; then toss the cornucopia of flavors over some rice or noodles.
The payoff of cooking with decadent ingredients is that you're more likely to savor each bite while also eating less. And when it comes time for dessert, opt for a metered helping of a lavish dessert or you could enhance the dining experience with a larger portion of low-fat sorbet or sherbet. Don't deny yourself, just eat smarter!
Balanced eating affects your overall health. If you nourish your body and mind with the stuff God cares about, then you will stop eating when your body says you are full. You'll also feel more motivated to exercise as you care for God's temple, which is your body (Romans 12).
I have frequently found myself in the trap of eating just because it makes me feel better. Or, I'll go for another soda instead of water because I feel tired. But that's when we need to turn our thoughts over to the Lord. Ask Him to give you self control. Trust Him to give you more energy!
God cares about your eating and exercise habits and wants to give you wisdom about your body and your overall physical and mental health. Take a walk and meditate on God's goodness instead of spending two hours on Facebook. Try to walk away from those menacing M&Ms since you've already eaten two hand-fulls today. Remember that God is your strength:
"My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever" (Psalm 73:26).
As you cook with healthy and environmentally friendly ingredients, you will take pride in your culinary masterpieces and will feel good about yourself and God's planet. By choosing great eco-friendly foods, you will never compromise on life's daily indulgences.
Also, remember to surround your table with love, no matter what you're serving. Even when budgets are tight, take heart in this verse from Proverbs:
"Better a meal of vegetables where there is love than a fattened calf with hatred" (15:17).
Finally, as you carefully choose what foods fill your mouth this summer, always TAKE TIME TO PRAISE our KING:
"My mouth is filled with your praise, declaring your splendor all day long" (Psalm 71:8).
If I have three organic chicken breasts, some fresh bell peppers, cilantro, and cheese, then I opt for sizzling fajitas. If I get down to a bare cupboard with flour, sugar, and salt, then I go for some amazing crepes, filled with eggs and cheese (while I send my hubby to the store for some sweet strawberries and whipped cream).
The key is working with what you've already got at home. If you have to run out for ten more ingredients (some that you've never even heard of), you're less likely to cook from home. And that's when take-out starts to sound like a cheaper and better option. But it's not!
The thing about well-rounded but tasteful cooking, is that you have to indulge frequently. Scrumptious consumption occurs by using high quality ingredients, such as organic and responsibly grown fruits and veggies reflecting every color of the rainbow. These colorful choices reward your taste buds while providing healthful antioxidants and vitamins.
But you've got to try new things! Instead of just carrots and broccoli, saute some eggplant and blueberries as well. Add in your favorite meat with some olive oil and a bit of balsamic vinegar; then toss the cornucopia of flavors over some rice or noodles.
The payoff of cooking with decadent ingredients is that you're more likely to savor each bite while also eating less. And when it comes time for dessert, opt for a metered helping of a lavish dessert or you could enhance the dining experience with a larger portion of low-fat sorbet or sherbet. Don't deny yourself, just eat smarter!
Balanced eating affects your overall health. If you nourish your body and mind with the stuff God cares about, then you will stop eating when your body says you are full. You'll also feel more motivated to exercise as you care for God's temple, which is your body (Romans 12).
I have frequently found myself in the trap of eating just because it makes me feel better. Or, I'll go for another soda instead of water because I feel tired. But that's when we need to turn our thoughts over to the Lord. Ask Him to give you self control. Trust Him to give you more energy!
God cares about your eating and exercise habits and wants to give you wisdom about your body and your overall physical and mental health. Take a walk and meditate on God's goodness instead of spending two hours on Facebook. Try to walk away from those menacing M&Ms since you've already eaten two hand-fulls today. Remember that God is your strength:
"My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever" (Psalm 73:26).
As you cook with healthy and environmentally friendly ingredients, you will take pride in your culinary masterpieces and will feel good about yourself and God's planet. By choosing great eco-friendly foods, you will never compromise on life's daily indulgences.
Also, remember to surround your table with love, no matter what you're serving. Even when budgets are tight, take heart in this verse from Proverbs:
"Better a meal of vegetables where there is love than a fattened calf with hatred" (15:17).
Finally, as you carefully choose what foods fill your mouth this summer, always TAKE TIME TO PRAISE our KING:
"My mouth is filled with your praise, declaring your splendor all day long" (Psalm 71:8).
Labels: balance, faith, food, health
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Linear perfection
I recently constructed an art piece for a church art show. It consists of nine 8x10 prints of various words written in the sand. The calligraphy flows with the curve of the earth with tremendous beauty. Each print is a Biblical word, except for the middle picture, which is a heart made out of beach rocks.
It looks pretty great, but the prints did not line up into perfect ninety degree angles as I'd hoped. And by the time the hot glue dried, it became almost impossible to rotate them even a tenth of one degree. So, I had to accept it the way it was.
After the show, I returned home and hung the canvas frame up on my kitchen wall. As I transfixed my gaze upon its imperfections, I tried to be at peace with what I'd made. I stared. I wrestled. I prayed. I wanted God to reveal something to me about the piece that He'd allowed me to construct for His glory.
And then it hit me. My life is like this oceanic artwork. Even though I want all of life's details to line up to linear perfection here on earth, they simply can NOT. And this really comes down to an issue of control. I want what I want and I want it now.
I want healing for past hurts TODAY! I want a perfect marriage TODAY! I want my kids' hearts to be shaped into God's image and His obedience TODAY! I desire success for my artistic dreams TODAY! I want patience and love and hope and peace TODAY!
And yet, God has something else. He longs for us to "Be still and know that (He) is God" (Psalm 46:10). The words that I wrote in the sand come to fruition when and only when they are centered around God's heart: hope, love, kindness, peace, gentleness, patience, joy, and self control.
Similarly, our own pursuits and goals manifest harmony when anchored to His heart as well. Maybe your career oscillates between success and failure. Or perhaps you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel through a particular emotional issue.
It could be that your marriage is about to tank and you're terrified about the unknown. Maybe you face a problematic health issue or a devastating financial dilemma. Perhaps you've just lost your faith in God and in people. You want to believe, but you simply can not.
As Christians, we must sprint into God's heart. He wants us to launch in with everything we've got. And He will be there to catch us, with His open arms of love. When we submit it all to Him, we will find the answers. And when we surrender completely to His will, we will be transformed along the way.
But IT DOESN'T MEAN that everything will line up perfectly as a result. God is not a genie in a bottle. He does not answer to our beck and call. He gives us His good gifts based on His omniscient time-line. And while we wait, He always hears, always loves, and patiently guides us along the journey.
So if your pictures don't line up to linear perfection, that's okay. None of ours do. But there's a Plan B scenario on the way. Or there's a lemon just waiting to be turned into the Lord's lemonade. Just stay on the course and try to see the big picture. God is the Master Artist and He's got your life designed with a purpose.
Keeping it real! Share your thoughts here. We'd love to hear from you!
It looks pretty great, but the prints did not line up into perfect ninety degree angles as I'd hoped. And by the time the hot glue dried, it became almost impossible to rotate them even a tenth of one degree. So, I had to accept it the way it was.
After the show, I returned home and hung the canvas frame up on my kitchen wall. As I transfixed my gaze upon its imperfections, I tried to be at peace with what I'd made. I stared. I wrestled. I prayed. I wanted God to reveal something to me about the piece that He'd allowed me to construct for His glory.
And then it hit me. My life is like this oceanic artwork. Even though I want all of life's details to line up to linear perfection here on earth, they simply can NOT. And this really comes down to an issue of control. I want what I want and I want it now.
I want healing for past hurts TODAY! I want a perfect marriage TODAY! I want my kids' hearts to be shaped into God's image and His obedience TODAY! I desire success for my artistic dreams TODAY! I want patience and love and hope and peace TODAY!
And yet, God has something else. He longs for us to "Be still and know that (He) is God" (Psalm 46:10). The words that I wrote in the sand come to fruition when and only when they are centered around God's heart: hope, love, kindness, peace, gentleness, patience, joy, and self control.
Similarly, our own pursuits and goals manifest harmony when anchored to His heart as well. Maybe your career oscillates between success and failure. Or perhaps you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel through a particular emotional issue.
It could be that your marriage is about to tank and you're terrified about the unknown. Maybe you face a problematic health issue or a devastating financial dilemma. Perhaps you've just lost your faith in God and in people. You want to believe, but you simply can not.
As Christians, we must sprint into God's heart. He wants us to launch in with everything we've got. And He will be there to catch us, with His open arms of love. When we submit it all to Him, we will find the answers. And when we surrender completely to His will, we will be transformed along the way.
But IT DOESN'T MEAN that everything will line up perfectly as a result. God is not a genie in a bottle. He does not answer to our beck and call. He gives us His good gifts based on His omniscient time-line. And while we wait, He always hears, always loves, and patiently guides us along the journey.
So if your pictures don't line up to linear perfection, that's okay. None of ours do. But there's a Plan B scenario on the way. Or there's a lemon just waiting to be turned into the Lord's lemonade. Just stay on the course and try to see the big picture. God is the Master Artist and He's got your life designed with a purpose.
Keeping it real! Share your thoughts here. We'd love to hear from you!
Saturday, December 25, 2010
A plant graveyard
The rainfall from last week leaves us all feeling a little bit chilly still. Wasn't it amazing? I knew God would never flood the earth again, but I was starting to wonder. On a positive note, my trees and plants look quite nourished, even though they sang a different whiny tune when they almost drowned from all the pools of water around them.
They got what they TRULY needed though, a refreshing dose of cold H20. They look green and vibrant today in the sunshine, almost hopeful really, which is strange to say about a plant. But, if you are a plant-lover like I am, you know what I mean.
In contrast to those healthy plants, I happened to notice two others as I walked up my driveway to the front door today. Two of my potted hanging plants look like sad members of a plant graveyard. You see, even though they were mere inches from the downpour that came with four days of non-stop rain, they couldn't benefit from the free heavenly drops.
It's ironic that those two hanging baskets missed all of those free "drinks on the house." Even the craziest part of the storm could not reach them under the eaves. So, they could hear it and long for it, but to no avail, they remained bone dry.
With three kids, one dog and a packed holiday schedule, those two plants in particular were a low priority to me; they've been on their way out for awhile, if you know what I mean. To avoid death though, all they needed was a good soaking to catch them up from their season of starvation. But I didn't stop to put those plants under the storm's path.
That's kind of how it is for people who say they just don't believe in God. They can't understand why all of those weird Christian people look so joyful and peaceful all the time. Even when Carrie-Christian gets a flat tire, she's like, "Jesus will bless this; maybe I'll get to help save a lost kitten while I'm stranded here."
It can be irritating when non-Christians simply want to moan and suffer in silence. Just when the pity party gets jamming, one of those wacky believers texts them to say, "(You) can do everything through Christ who strengthens (you)" (Philippians 4:13). But, its perfect timing does actually help to soften the blow from that recent $2000 car repair bill.
When some non-believers hear the Christian-eze around them, it just makes them want to puke. Because it simply doesn't make sense! "To gain your life you must lose it..." What is that, anyways? But the reality is that we all have to put ourselves out there, just like my sad plants... who couldn't. Lucky that we get a choice about where we stand.
When it comes to issues of faith, God certainly doesn't push, pull, or cajole anyone into His presence. If someone wants to stay a member of the "plant graveyard," he or she certainly can; it's totally their call. If a person wants to starve to death, God won't force-feed her because true love doesn't do that. If God demanded our love, would that really be love at all? More like totalitarianism, don't you think?
But He actually does have an awesome plan for each one of us. He wants to bless us and sustain us while we go through our own plethora of storms. But, if we stubbornly refuse to put ourselves under His loving presence, He won't force us. Even if we choose death and drought over serenity and satisfaction, He won't coerce us to join His feast of abundance: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22).
When I compare the watered plants out front to the two hanging ones that still need a drink so badly, the solution seems so obvious. "Drink some water, you dumb plants!" And that's all that some of us need as well, a tall glass of water. Jesus wants to give us a living source of water though, one where we will drink and never be thirsty again. It's the hope of eternal life where we begin to live and grow spiritually from this day forward.
Since the new year quickly approaches, think about which kind of plant you want to be this coming year: the healthy one or the dead one. This post might seem harsh to some of you, but this is my post-Christmas gift to you dear reader. Please accept it as a free gift of love, that cost my best friend His earthly life!
John 10:10 says, "The thief (satan) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." Go for the full life! Live it no holds barred. That's what Jesus did and that's what we crazy Christians are called to do as well! Join the party; you are all invited!
Share your thoughts! We'd love to hear from you. Happy New Year! :)
They got what they TRULY needed though, a refreshing dose of cold H20. They look green and vibrant today in the sunshine, almost hopeful really, which is strange to say about a plant. But, if you are a plant-lover like I am, you know what I mean.
In contrast to those healthy plants, I happened to notice two others as I walked up my driveway to the front door today. Two of my potted hanging plants look like sad members of a plant graveyard. You see, even though they were mere inches from the downpour that came with four days of non-stop rain, they couldn't benefit from the free heavenly drops.
It's ironic that those two hanging baskets missed all of those free "drinks on the house." Even the craziest part of the storm could not reach them under the eaves. So, they could hear it and long for it, but to no avail, they remained bone dry.
With three kids, one dog and a packed holiday schedule, those two plants in particular were a low priority to me; they've been on their way out for awhile, if you know what I mean. To avoid death though, all they needed was a good soaking to catch them up from their season of starvation. But I didn't stop to put those plants under the storm's path.
That's kind of how it is for people who say they just don't believe in God. They can't understand why all of those weird Christian people look so joyful and peaceful all the time. Even when Carrie-Christian gets a flat tire, she's like, "Jesus will bless this; maybe I'll get to help save a lost kitten while I'm stranded here."
It can be irritating when non-Christians simply want to moan and suffer in silence. Just when the pity party gets jamming, one of those wacky believers texts them to say, "(You) can do everything through Christ who strengthens (you)" (Philippians 4:13). But, its perfect timing does actually help to soften the blow from that recent $2000 car repair bill.
When some non-believers hear the Christian-eze around them, it just makes them want to puke. Because it simply doesn't make sense! "To gain your life you must lose it..." What is that, anyways? But the reality is that we all have to put ourselves out there, just like my sad plants... who couldn't. Lucky that we get a choice about where we stand.
When it comes to issues of faith, God certainly doesn't push, pull, or cajole anyone into His presence. If someone wants to stay a member of the "plant graveyard," he or she certainly can; it's totally their call. If a person wants to starve to death, God won't force-feed her because true love doesn't do that. If God demanded our love, would that really be love at all? More like totalitarianism, don't you think?
But He actually does have an awesome plan for each one of us. He wants to bless us and sustain us while we go through our own plethora of storms. But, if we stubbornly refuse to put ourselves under His loving presence, He won't force us. Even if we choose death and drought over serenity and satisfaction, He won't coerce us to join His feast of abundance: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22).
When I compare the watered plants out front to the two hanging ones that still need a drink so badly, the solution seems so obvious. "Drink some water, you dumb plants!" And that's all that some of us need as well, a tall glass of water. Jesus wants to give us a living source of water though, one where we will drink and never be thirsty again. It's the hope of eternal life where we begin to live and grow spiritually from this day forward.
Since the new year quickly approaches, think about which kind of plant you want to be this coming year: the healthy one or the dead one. This post might seem harsh to some of you, but this is my post-Christmas gift to you dear reader. Please accept it as a free gift of love, that cost my best friend His earthly life!
John 10:10 says, "The thief (satan) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." Go for the full life! Live it no holds barred. That's what Jesus did and that's what we crazy Christians are called to do as well! Join the party; you are all invited!
Share your thoughts! We'd love to hear from you. Happy New Year! :)
Labels: faith, family, New Year, rainstorm
Saturday, December 18, 2010
"Unless Jesus comes back first..."
I love kids. Their perspectives are so sobering, especially when it comes to issues of faith and hope. My five-year-old daughter loves to talk about death, which might seem strange. But even that pensive topic becomes exciting because of her young and optimistic outlook.
Her plethora of questions about death, such as, "When I'm forty-seven, will you be dead?" or "When you are one-hundred-and-ten, will Grammy still be alive?" are ongoing. But her introspection always reminds me of the promise that we have in Jesus.
In my most gentle voice, I usually say, "Well, when you are that old, I will be really old..." or "... by then, Grammy will be in heaven with Jesus." AND THEN my daughter says, "Unless Jesus comes back first."
You see, she actually believes that He might come back during our lifetime. And why shouldn't she? No-one knows the day or time, remember? The Bible tells us that we should be ready at all times, but do we take that challenge seriously?
That truth means we are to live today as if He might actually come back today. Perhaps He will return tomorrow or maybe even on Christmas Day? In light of these thoughts, let's cling to the things that truly matter, like our families and friends and their walk with the Lord. Let's pray together and study His Word.
Time certainly flies by like each passing breath, but let's not fear death. It has no sting, remember? Sickness will come into your life at some point just as the storms arrive to water the earth. But, let it strengthen you as you press into His power.
Let go of old hurts as well; move on towards God's peace because He can't wait to see you face to face sometime very soon. In that moment, He will take away all of your pain. That means that you can forgive your trespassers today since His love for you is even greater than the hurt that they have caused.
So what would you do if Jesus came back today? Would you be ready to head off to heaven? Would you be done drinking your coffee, paying those bills, cleaning that tile, or wrapping those fun presents? You might have to leave that dish baking in the oven... you know... or that load of laundry turning in the washing machine.
Since Christmas is approaching, let's take a few moments to sit with the Lord, Jesus. Let's rest in His arms and rejoice for what lies ahead: a heaven where there are no tears, no suffering, and a place where every wrong will be righted.
Slow down to hear from the Savior and take a minute to sing to Him. It is His birthday after all! Share your thoughts about heaven and hope. We'd love to hear from you! Merry Christmas! :)
Her plethora of questions about death, such as, "When I'm forty-seven, will you be dead?" or "When you are one-hundred-and-ten, will Grammy still be alive?" are ongoing. But her introspection always reminds me of the promise that we have in Jesus.
In my most gentle voice, I usually say, "Well, when you are that old, I will be really old..." or "... by then, Grammy will be in heaven with Jesus." AND THEN my daughter says, "Unless Jesus comes back first."
You see, she actually believes that He might come back during our lifetime. And why shouldn't she? No-one knows the day or time, remember? The Bible tells us that we should be ready at all times, but do we take that challenge seriously?
That truth means we are to live today as if He might actually come back today. Perhaps He will return tomorrow or maybe even on Christmas Day? In light of these thoughts, let's cling to the things that truly matter, like our families and friends and their walk with the Lord. Let's pray together and study His Word.
Time certainly flies by like each passing breath, but let's not fear death. It has no sting, remember? Sickness will come into your life at some point just as the storms arrive to water the earth. But, let it strengthen you as you press into His power.
Let go of old hurts as well; move on towards God's peace because He can't wait to see you face to face sometime very soon. In that moment, He will take away all of your pain. That means that you can forgive your trespassers today since His love for you is even greater than the hurt that they have caused.
So what would you do if Jesus came back today? Would you be ready to head off to heaven? Would you be done drinking your coffee, paying those bills, cleaning that tile, or wrapping those fun presents? You might have to leave that dish baking in the oven... you know... or that load of laundry turning in the washing machine.
Since Christmas is approaching, let's take a few moments to sit with the Lord, Jesus. Let's rest in His arms and rejoice for what lies ahead: a heaven where there are no tears, no suffering, and a place where every wrong will be righted.
Slow down to hear from the Savior and take a minute to sing to Him. It is His birthday after all! Share your thoughts about heaven and hope. We'd love to hear from you! Merry Christmas! :)
Labels: Christmas, faith, family, Jesus
Monday, December 06, 2010
A moment
No matter what you are going through, at least you are still alive. You might feel dead sometimes because of life's overwhelming struggles.
But, when push comes to shove, you can be thankful that you are still alive today. No-one besides God Himself knows what tomorrow holds.
So for now, let's be thankful for the day that we're in. Let's have gratitude no matter how crappy things get in this crazy world. For in this moment, we get to be a part of this day and the wonderment that it holds.
The sun rises anew today. The moon casts its cool glow upon us. The stars twinkle brightly in a song to the universe around them. The ocean's tides ebb and flow as our hearts beat to their own melodic tune.
You never know if you'll be here to complain about tomorrow because your clock might stop ticking tonight. So instead of dreading the fear of hurts and sorrows or the mysterious unknown, let's be thankful for the moment that we're in.
No matter how devastating your circumstances get, keep your eyes upon the moment that you are in, for all we have is one moment and then we are gone!
Keeping it real! Share your thoughts. We'd love to hear from you! :)
But, when push comes to shove, you can be thankful that you are still alive today. No-one besides God Himself knows what tomorrow holds.
So for now, let's be thankful for the day that we're in. Let's have gratitude no matter how crappy things get in this crazy world. For in this moment, we get to be a part of this day and the wonderment that it holds.
The sun rises anew today. The moon casts its cool glow upon us. The stars twinkle brightly in a song to the universe around them. The ocean's tides ebb and flow as our hearts beat to their own melodic tune.
You never know if you'll be here to complain about tomorrow because your clock might stop ticking tonight. So instead of dreading the fear of hurts and sorrows or the mysterious unknown, let's be thankful for the moment that we're in.
No matter how devastating your circumstances get, keep your eyes upon the moment that you are in, for all we have is one moment and then we are gone!
Keeping it real! Share your thoughts. We'd love to hear from you! :)
Thursday, December 02, 2010
dualisms
Self identity is a complicated topic. Not just who we are and the game pieces we play on the chess-board, but the difficulty of the contradictions within those definitions. For example, I am simultaneously a mom, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and a friend. Now, I am starting to sound like Jorge Luis Borges' essay called, "Borges y yo," which discusses the variety of roles we fill using the metaphor of hats. But, aside from the Hispanic literary reference, I want to dig deeper, even than Borges' journey many decades ago.
Why is it that as a mom, I can feel peaceful and anxious on the same day, in the same ten minute period even? Why as a wife can I feel incredibly blissful one moment and passionately irate the next? My role as a daughter produces feelings of undying faithfulness in an instant but those of bitter frustration the next. As a sister, I am likely to sense a deep blood connection one month and a sibling rivalry the next. As a friend, I can feel irritable by one response and compelled by her next.
These contradictions can leave me confused to say the least. I think PMS and hormones are mostly to blame. But all kidding aside, even my male audience would agree that emotions can be a dangerous thing. What then do we base our definitions upon? Upon our feelings? Or, upon the commitments we have made over the years to the truths we believe? What about our faith that pulls us into a deeper calling, even more-so than our five senses at times?
For me, my belief in God takes part in this battle of dualisms as well. If I depend upon my feelings when it comes to faith, I can become perplexed about God too. His goodness fills the verdant garden, producing the sweetest oranges and grapes while simultaneously... His idle response to man's evil lurks passively in the shadows as well. For just outside of the garden, a murderer kills an innocent victim. And beyond that scenario, the gentle scent of a rose petal rests upon a peaceful breeze while a violent wind blows down a small village far, far away from there with its incessant attacks.
Most people have problems with the "problem" of evil and the "problem" of suffering or pain. If you've studied even one ounce of philosophy, you know this to be true as well. And yet, it leaves me hoping for more. For the world beyond this one. Where injustices are righted. Where faltered dreams and failures are restored. Where death has no sting. Where sickness has no bite.
Can we hope together for the heaven that awaits us? Is Jesus really preparing a home for you and for me regardless of how we feel about our circumstances now? If so, it should affect the way we evaluate our feelings; and it should certainly determine the way we define ourselves in our current roles. We should see them through His victorious lens, where justice and truth win in the end. But, it's not always easy!
As a multi-faceted being with a plethora of roles rotating round and round like a revolving door, I am challenged amidst these dilemmas. And yet, I am not defeated. My favorite verse from high school comes to mind: "I can do everything through (Christ) who strengthens me!" (Philippians 4:13). I can be a mom at all times, while also balancing my role as a wife, daughter, sister, and friend. I can feel flustered about the goodness and the evil that co-mingle around me on a daily basis. I can feel joyful and sad about the same person or circumstance. I can cry and laugh simultaneously.
And I can even feel mad at God for His slow response to the inequities that we all face. It is okay. It is allowed. We are human now, but will one day be fully transformed into His image. We are of two natures still... but are constantly being renewed into His perfection and into His glory! We can face today and its dualistic nature because we are not alone! We have His help at all times. "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you" (Matthew 7:7).
Keep the faith! Share your thoughts here. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Why is it that as a mom, I can feel peaceful and anxious on the same day, in the same ten minute period even? Why as a wife can I feel incredibly blissful one moment and passionately irate the next? My role as a daughter produces feelings of undying faithfulness in an instant but those of bitter frustration the next. As a sister, I am likely to sense a deep blood connection one month and a sibling rivalry the next. As a friend, I can feel irritable by one response and compelled by her next.
These contradictions can leave me confused to say the least. I think PMS and hormones are mostly to blame. But all kidding aside, even my male audience would agree that emotions can be a dangerous thing. What then do we base our definitions upon? Upon our feelings? Or, upon the commitments we have made over the years to the truths we believe? What about our faith that pulls us into a deeper calling, even more-so than our five senses at times?
For me, my belief in God takes part in this battle of dualisms as well. If I depend upon my feelings when it comes to faith, I can become perplexed about God too. His goodness fills the verdant garden, producing the sweetest oranges and grapes while simultaneously... His idle response to man's evil lurks passively in the shadows as well. For just outside of the garden, a murderer kills an innocent victim. And beyond that scenario, the gentle scent of a rose petal rests upon a peaceful breeze while a violent wind blows down a small village far, far away from there with its incessant attacks.
Most people have problems with the "problem" of evil and the "problem" of suffering or pain. If you've studied even one ounce of philosophy, you know this to be true as well. And yet, it leaves me hoping for more. For the world beyond this one. Where injustices are righted. Where faltered dreams and failures are restored. Where death has no sting. Where sickness has no bite.
Can we hope together for the heaven that awaits us? Is Jesus really preparing a home for you and for me regardless of how we feel about our circumstances now? If so, it should affect the way we evaluate our feelings; and it should certainly determine the way we define ourselves in our current roles. We should see them through His victorious lens, where justice and truth win in the end. But, it's not always easy!
As a multi-faceted being with a plethora of roles rotating round and round like a revolving door, I am challenged amidst these dilemmas. And yet, I am not defeated. My favorite verse from high school comes to mind: "I can do everything through (Christ) who strengthens me!" (Philippians 4:13). I can be a mom at all times, while also balancing my role as a wife, daughter, sister, and friend. I can feel flustered about the goodness and the evil that co-mingle around me on a daily basis. I can feel joyful and sad about the same person or circumstance. I can cry and laugh simultaneously.
And I can even feel mad at God for His slow response to the inequities that we all face. It is okay. It is allowed. We are human now, but will one day be fully transformed into His image. We are of two natures still... but are constantly being renewed into His perfection and into His glory! We can face today and its dualistic nature because we are not alone! We have His help at all times. "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you" (Matthew 7:7).
Keep the faith! Share your thoughts here. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Labels: daughters, dualism, faith, friends, moms, wives
Thursday, October 28, 2010
God's goodness
God's goodness is all around us. But, do we choose to see it? Sometimes, we focus on our problems and our insecurities, instead of delving into His ever-present promises.
This morning, I was driving our older Toyota sedan as I bumped into a few "friends" who made me feel less than totally acceptable. Maybe it was mostly my perception and not their actual thoughts. But, you know those people who look at you in a certain way, that makes you feel smaller than you really are?
When we feel less significant because our car isn't as nice as hers... or our outfit isn't as new or as cool as theirs, then it's time to rest in what we know to be true, deep down.
The fact is, that this life is short. At the speed at which we race towards death, we must live for bigger things than fashion and money. My spirit resonated with our pastor's recent challenge to, "... invest in things of true worth" (Pastor Matt from Sandals Church in October).
The simple truth about giving financially to our church means we may live with less material abundance than those who do not. If you give to your church as well, or to other charity organizations, then you can probably relate.
After writing that check out every month, you hit those final days before getting paid, and your mind can play tricks on you. You might think, "But, if I didn't give that much this month, then we could have gone out to dinner this week."
You might think of the money you've given over the years and wish you'd bought that new gaming system for the kids that everyone else already owns. Or your heart might pine for a new piece of jewelry or some shinier shoes. You might even dream bigger and wish you had bought that newer house instead of the one you currently reside in.
Perhaps you're dying to purchase some new flooring for your downstairs living space; or it could be that you long to landscape that dirt rectangle out in the backyard. Unfortunately, it seems like that extra check or bonus will never arrive.
When you feel this way, don't fret. That's what I did this morning with some silly tears during my prayer-time. While it wasn't a waste because our kind Father hears all of our complaints, the minutes were less wisely spent than they could have been.
Instead of moping over things that I "needed," I could have spent the time asking our King to powerfully move hearts in the African village where a missionary friend lives.
This morning, my thoughts got overcome by the temporary lies of the enemy, telling me that this world is all there is. But, we as Christians know this to be false. There's so much more that awaits us! Eternal hope and glory lie beyond this fleeting life.
So, let's invest in the things that concern our Lord. Let's not get stuck in the petty traps vying for our attention and money; these things only promise value and significance but tarnish and decay instead.
Remember these words from King David and find peace today: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made..." (Psalm 139:13+14a).
You are good enough as you are, fellow Believer. You don't need a nicer wardrobe, a fancier car, or a palace to be more worthy. You are perfectly significant because God values you just as you are.
And remember too that He gives you everything that you truly need for today. Take heart from Jesus' words, "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" (Matthew 6:34).
Don't stress about the things that don't matter. Instead, pay attention to the issues that count for eternity, like who is going to ascend into heaven after they die. Instead of inconsequential concerns, try to focus on people's deeper needs due to an illness or an immense loss.
Make it your goal to value what God cares about and you'll find peace in the process! Share how God has helped your eyes to see things with an eternal perspective. We'd love to hear from you! :)
This morning, I was driving our older Toyota sedan as I bumped into a few "friends" who made me feel less than totally acceptable. Maybe it was mostly my perception and not their actual thoughts. But, you know those people who look at you in a certain way, that makes you feel smaller than you really are?
When we feel less significant because our car isn't as nice as hers... or our outfit isn't as new or as cool as theirs, then it's time to rest in what we know to be true, deep down.
The fact is, that this life is short. At the speed at which we race towards death, we must live for bigger things than fashion and money. My spirit resonated with our pastor's recent challenge to, "... invest in things of true worth" (Pastor Matt from Sandals Church in October).
The simple truth about giving financially to our church means we may live with less material abundance than those who do not. If you give to your church as well, or to other charity organizations, then you can probably relate.
After writing that check out every month, you hit those final days before getting paid, and your mind can play tricks on you. You might think, "But, if I didn't give that much this month, then we could have gone out to dinner this week."
You might think of the money you've given over the years and wish you'd bought that new gaming system for the kids that everyone else already owns. Or your heart might pine for a new piece of jewelry or some shinier shoes. You might even dream bigger and wish you had bought that newer house instead of the one you currently reside in.
Perhaps you're dying to purchase some new flooring for your downstairs living space; or it could be that you long to landscape that dirt rectangle out in the backyard. Unfortunately, it seems like that extra check or bonus will never arrive.
When you feel this way, don't fret. That's what I did this morning with some silly tears during my prayer-time. While it wasn't a waste because our kind Father hears all of our complaints, the minutes were less wisely spent than they could have been.
Instead of moping over things that I "needed," I could have spent the time asking our King to powerfully move hearts in the African village where a missionary friend lives.
This morning, my thoughts got overcome by the temporary lies of the enemy, telling me that this world is all there is. But, we as Christians know this to be false. There's so much more that awaits us! Eternal hope and glory lie beyond this fleeting life.
So, let's invest in the things that concern our Lord. Let's not get stuck in the petty traps vying for our attention and money; these things only promise value and significance but tarnish and decay instead.
Remember these words from King David and find peace today: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made..." (Psalm 139:13+14a).
You are good enough as you are, fellow Believer. You don't need a nicer wardrobe, a fancier car, or a palace to be more worthy. You are perfectly significant because God values you just as you are.
And remember too that He gives you everything that you truly need for today. Take heart from Jesus' words, "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" (Matthew 6:34).
Don't stress about the things that don't matter. Instead, pay attention to the issues that count for eternity, like who is going to ascend into heaven after they die. Instead of inconsequential concerns, try to focus on people's deeper needs due to an illness or an immense loss.
Make it your goal to value what God cares about and you'll find peace in the process! Share how God has helped your eyes to see things with an eternal perspective. We'd love to hear from you! :)
Labels: Believer, Christian, faith, women
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Don't Give Up!
This is going to be a very short post. Mainly, I just want to say, DON'T GIVE UP! Sometimes, life just feels so full of burdens. Amidst the never-ending tasks, the plethora of bills, our overloaded schedules, and a sometimes amazingly stupid line-up of arguments... we can just feel worn out.
While giving up might feel like the easiest option, DON'T DO IT! Be the strong person that you know you are... even amidst the trials. Keep working hard! Keep believing! Keep striving for greatness! And make sure to laugh more by doing silly things! Try rocking out to U2 in the middle of your kitchen when you really feel like taking a nap instead. You'll laugh if you dance like no-one's watching.
Today I let my four-year-old paint my nails again, even though she did them like five times yesterday. At least they're as strong as cement as a result... and super sparkly. As she "gooped" the polish on like it was Elmer's glue, I began to laugh like I was going to snort out juicy boogers. She got mad at me for chuckling so intensely, but I couldn't help it; tears were flooding down my face.
Even as I write this post, I have to decide to get over a frustrating argument that I just had with my spouse. Do I stay grumpy at him or do I think up a funny way to make us both laugh? When you both feel super stressed out and tired, even the littlest things can turn into unreasonable ordeals. I think I should just smash his face with a purple cupcake from my kitchen; perhaps, I'll just have to tickle him to death instead. Either way, it will end our ridiculous disagreement!
When you get through the storm, whatever yours is, you'll find the rainbow at the end. Try to remember that the sun always shines; it just gets covered up by the clouds sometimes. So, don't forget to keep things in perspective no matter what you face today. Just decide that you WON'T GIVE UP! Not today and not tomorrow and not the next day or even the day after that! Just keeping it real!
Share what makes you laugh hysterically. We'd love to hear from you. :)
While giving up might feel like the easiest option, DON'T DO IT! Be the strong person that you know you are... even amidst the trials. Keep working hard! Keep believing! Keep striving for greatness! And make sure to laugh more by doing silly things! Try rocking out to U2 in the middle of your kitchen when you really feel like taking a nap instead. You'll laugh if you dance like no-one's watching.
Today I let my four-year-old paint my nails again, even though she did them like five times yesterday. At least they're as strong as cement as a result... and super sparkly. As she "gooped" the polish on like it was Elmer's glue, I began to laugh like I was going to snort out juicy boogers. She got mad at me for chuckling so intensely, but I couldn't help it; tears were flooding down my face.
Even as I write this post, I have to decide to get over a frustrating argument that I just had with my spouse. Do I stay grumpy at him or do I think up a funny way to make us both laugh? When you both feel super stressed out and tired, even the littlest things can turn into unreasonable ordeals. I think I should just smash his face with a purple cupcake from my kitchen; perhaps, I'll just have to tickle him to death instead. Either way, it will end our ridiculous disagreement!
When you get through the storm, whatever yours is, you'll find the rainbow at the end. Try to remember that the sun always shines; it just gets covered up by the clouds sometimes. So, don't forget to keep things in perspective no matter what you face today. Just decide that you WON'T GIVE UP! Not today and not tomorrow and not the next day or even the day after that! Just keeping it real!
Share what makes you laugh hysterically. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Labels: endurance, faith, family, marriage
Thursday, September 16, 2010
God and Gardening
Some of you know me well and that means you are acquainted with my fruit tree addiction. I enjoy gardening in general but more specifically, I love my fruit trees and vines. Some of you vehemently hate the great outdoors; the dirt, thorns, and sunshine drive you nuts. So, you might zone out and dismiss what lies ahead. But, stick around and you'll see that there's something here for you as well.
For me, gardening is my peaceful place. I love to water my trees, to look for new blossoms, or to discover a new piece of fruit. I can even tell when one of my trees has grown by just one inch. I can see this clearly on my newer avocado tree. The new growth is smooth and light green, as it optimistically shoots up toward the sun. It's so exciting! And I'm a total nerd when it comes to gifts. Guess what I asked for this past Mother's Day? My Pixie tangerine tree, of course. :)
If you see me out watering, you might even catch me talking to one of my trees or laying hands on a struggling tree or grape-vine. I mean, if God cares about what I care about, then I figure He can heal one of my trees or vines as well. Just recently, I finally noticed some growth on one of my fussy grape-vines. He'd been so stubborn, refusing to grow a single leaf after months and months of watering. But, finally...one has popped out to say hello. And I can't wait to plant six more bare root cousins of his over the next few weeks. :)
Yet frequently, as I'm out taking care of my fourteen fruit trees and my plethora of vines, I feel like they're not producing much. Although the trees have tons of leaves, I still wonder if all of my efforts will ever pay off. I ponder, "When will I see some fruit?" But, then I gaze at my navel orange, mandarin-orange, Mexican lime, peach, plum, Delicious apple, green olive, tangerine, cherry, Haas avocado, apricot, pear-apple, and the two lemon trees. I love and know my trees because they are mine.
I breathe in the fragrance of their blossoms and then I feel like it's all worth it. After a couple of years, I see some of my citrus trees full of fruit and it reminds me that I'll see new fruit on the others as well...in due time. I think back to the one apple that my son and I enjoyed earlier this season. It was small, lonely, and picked a little bit too early, but super tasty and rewarding. It was ours...the one that we'd worked so hard to harvest.
As I think about each one of my trees and vines, I just have to picture my garden and think through where each one stands. Then, I can remember what each one looks like. I can visualize which one has yellowing leaves and needs less or more water than another. I can recall the joy I had this past week as my pear-apple finally evidenced some early fall blossoms. The fruit is FINALLY on its way after twenty months of chill-hours (I've prayed over this specific tree numerous times). YEAH!!!
Earlier today, when I dropped off all three of my kids at school, I felt a sense of relief, but it wasn't joyful, like the pear-apple. I felt more like my cherry tree that starts to look like it's gonna produce hundreds of cherries but then fizzles out and says, "No, I need more chill hours, ha-ha! The joke's on you." :(
This morning was chaotic, so I felt ecstatic to have some time to myself, to think, to text a few people...a few minutes just to pray and to shed a few tired tears. Some weeks are overwhelming. You know that your job as a mom is worth all of the effort, but if you're honest, you wonder when you're gonna see the fruit in your own kids' lives. Frequently, it's hard to focus on the hugs and kisses amidst the whining, arguing, demanding... the messes, and the meltdowns.
After drop-off, I took a few deep breaths, shared some honest thoughts with God about who I wish I was but am not...about some dreams that never seem to go anywhere...about the frustrated feelings I've had about my kids lately. Even now, I sigh as I think through how hard marriage can be... how it requires so much effort to have a vibrant one, to have one that promises to hit a GOLDEN anniversary someday. Because I want our relationship to be better than just ok or good. :)
And I've thought about how God cares about me and my family so much more than I care about my mini-grove of fruit trees. He wants to water us, to prune us, and to bear fruit in our lives as well. He created us with specific needs and passions. Some of us need more sunshine or water than others. Some of us are more emotional and take longer to blossom and to bear fruit. But, guess what? We serve a patient and loving Heavenly Father. He cares! And He knows...everything about you and me.
When I feel like He doesn't see my needs or my dreams, I just need to look out at my trees and see how He allows them to grow so obediently and so patiently. It reminds me of the work He's doing in my heart and in my husband's and kids' lives as well. Thankfully, trees don't question God asking, "But why me, God? Why not sooner?" They just grow their roots deeper during a drought. They drink in the water and sunshine when the resources are available. They drop their leaves during the right season as well.
The thing that's hard about trusting God to keep His end of the bargain is to believe that He's shaping us during those long months when we can't see any fruit at all. With my trees and vines, it sometimes feels like I'm investing in them for nothing, like they're conspiring against me. So many of them are just weak sticks staring up at me... snickering... laughing. Others are more advanced... with vibrant green leaves but no fruit for months or even years, depending on the type of tree.
But, below the surface, the roots dig deep beneath the earth. They look for water in dark and unseen places. They prepare the way for the coming fruit. And that's how God works in us as well. He allows certain financial, professional, personal, and emotional struggles into our lives so that our roots grow deeper as well. He's asking you and me, "Will you trust me even when you can't see the fruit... even when there's no rain or sunshine for a long time?"
My answer is usually this: "Yes God, I'll trust you, but I'm not gonna be happy about it." I generally possess a less than totally joyful attitude about the obedience I know I must comply with. I complain to God each time I don't get my way or when God doesn't answer my prayers according to my time-line.
Can you imagine my fruit trees answering back to me with such cynicism? "Yes, we'll promise to grow, crazy lady that talks to us, but we won't be happy about it." As if my vines would retort, "Sure, we'll bear fruit, but we'll be grumpy during all the long hot months before that happens."
So, here's what God wants. He desires us to see ourselves like my fruit trees and vines. He doesn't want us to whine or gripe, though He is patient to listen when we are sad. Our loving Father wants us to do what we were created to do: to worship Him no matter what else is going on. He wishes for us to allow Him to water us with His Word and His Spirit so that we can grow spiritually.
God desires us to dig our roots down deep, especially during hard times...to find the water that truly quenches our souls. He longs for us to wait for His appointed time for the fruit that He promises. He wants to remind us that He won't give up on us...that He's not done with us yet. Philippians 1:6 says, "...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
John 15:5 says, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a woman remains in me and I in her, she will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do NOTHING." So, remember this: you have to set aside some time to be in God's presence. You can do that in the car, while you shower, during your workout at the gym, or even while you're using the bathroom (that's where I keep my devotional book...just keeping it real). :)
It doesn't matter where you sit or stand while you pray and read His Word. Your prayers don't have to be fancy or long. You don't have to read the Bible for hours at a time; try starting with five minutes a day. You can whisper, scream, or simply pray silently in your head. As it happens, I love to spend time with the Lord while I'm outside caring for my trees and vines. It reminds me of how He takes care of me, even when I'm impatient, irritable, and dubious.
God is the Master Gardener, so remember to rest in His care! I'll try to do the same. Share some of your favorite gardening stories or some thoughts about what God's been doing in your life. We'd love to hear from you. :)
For me, gardening is my peaceful place. I love to water my trees, to look for new blossoms, or to discover a new piece of fruit. I can even tell when one of my trees has grown by just one inch. I can see this clearly on my newer avocado tree. The new growth is smooth and light green, as it optimistically shoots up toward the sun. It's so exciting! And I'm a total nerd when it comes to gifts. Guess what I asked for this past Mother's Day? My Pixie tangerine tree, of course. :)
If you see me out watering, you might even catch me talking to one of my trees or laying hands on a struggling tree or grape-vine. I mean, if God cares about what I care about, then I figure He can heal one of my trees or vines as well. Just recently, I finally noticed some growth on one of my fussy grape-vines. He'd been so stubborn, refusing to grow a single leaf after months and months of watering. But, finally...one has popped out to say hello. And I can't wait to plant six more bare root cousins of his over the next few weeks. :)
Yet frequently, as I'm out taking care of my fourteen fruit trees and my plethora of vines, I feel like they're not producing much. Although the trees have tons of leaves, I still wonder if all of my efforts will ever pay off. I ponder, "When will I see some fruit?" But, then I gaze at my navel orange, mandarin-orange, Mexican lime, peach, plum, Delicious apple, green olive, tangerine, cherry, Haas avocado, apricot, pear-apple, and the two lemon trees. I love and know my trees because they are mine.
I breathe in the fragrance of their blossoms and then I feel like it's all worth it. After a couple of years, I see some of my citrus trees full of fruit and it reminds me that I'll see new fruit on the others as well...in due time. I think back to the one apple that my son and I enjoyed earlier this season. It was small, lonely, and picked a little bit too early, but super tasty and rewarding. It was ours...the one that we'd worked so hard to harvest.
As I think about each one of my trees and vines, I just have to picture my garden and think through where each one stands. Then, I can remember what each one looks like. I can visualize which one has yellowing leaves and needs less or more water than another. I can recall the joy I had this past week as my pear-apple finally evidenced some early fall blossoms. The fruit is FINALLY on its way after twenty months of chill-hours (I've prayed over this specific tree numerous times). YEAH!!!
Earlier today, when I dropped off all three of my kids at school, I felt a sense of relief, but it wasn't joyful, like the pear-apple. I felt more like my cherry tree that starts to look like it's gonna produce hundreds of cherries but then fizzles out and says, "No, I need more chill hours, ha-ha! The joke's on you." :(
This morning was chaotic, so I felt ecstatic to have some time to myself, to think, to text a few people...a few minutes just to pray and to shed a few tired tears. Some weeks are overwhelming. You know that your job as a mom is worth all of the effort, but if you're honest, you wonder when you're gonna see the fruit in your own kids' lives. Frequently, it's hard to focus on the hugs and kisses amidst the whining, arguing, demanding... the messes, and the meltdowns.
After drop-off, I took a few deep breaths, shared some honest thoughts with God about who I wish I was but am not...about some dreams that never seem to go anywhere...about the frustrated feelings I've had about my kids lately. Even now, I sigh as I think through how hard marriage can be... how it requires so much effort to have a vibrant one, to have one that promises to hit a GOLDEN anniversary someday. Because I want our relationship to be better than just ok or good. :)
And I've thought about how God cares about me and my family so much more than I care about my mini-grove of fruit trees. He wants to water us, to prune us, and to bear fruit in our lives as well. He created us with specific needs and passions. Some of us need more sunshine or water than others. Some of us are more emotional and take longer to blossom and to bear fruit. But, guess what? We serve a patient and loving Heavenly Father. He cares! And He knows...everything about you and me.
When I feel like He doesn't see my needs or my dreams, I just need to look out at my trees and see how He allows them to grow so obediently and so patiently. It reminds me of the work He's doing in my heart and in my husband's and kids' lives as well. Thankfully, trees don't question God asking, "But why me, God? Why not sooner?" They just grow their roots deeper during a drought. They drink in the water and sunshine when the resources are available. They drop their leaves during the right season as well.
The thing that's hard about trusting God to keep His end of the bargain is to believe that He's shaping us during those long months when we can't see any fruit at all. With my trees and vines, it sometimes feels like I'm investing in them for nothing, like they're conspiring against me. So many of them are just weak sticks staring up at me... snickering... laughing. Others are more advanced... with vibrant green leaves but no fruit for months or even years, depending on the type of tree.
But, below the surface, the roots dig deep beneath the earth. They look for water in dark and unseen places. They prepare the way for the coming fruit. And that's how God works in us as well. He allows certain financial, professional, personal, and emotional struggles into our lives so that our roots grow deeper as well. He's asking you and me, "Will you trust me even when you can't see the fruit... even when there's no rain or sunshine for a long time?"
My answer is usually this: "Yes God, I'll trust you, but I'm not gonna be happy about it." I generally possess a less than totally joyful attitude about the obedience I know I must comply with. I complain to God each time I don't get my way or when God doesn't answer my prayers according to my time-line.
Can you imagine my fruit trees answering back to me with such cynicism? "Yes, we'll promise to grow, crazy lady that talks to us, but we won't be happy about it." As if my vines would retort, "Sure, we'll bear fruit, but we'll be grumpy during all the long hot months before that happens."
So, here's what God wants. He desires us to see ourselves like my fruit trees and vines. He doesn't want us to whine or gripe, though He is patient to listen when we are sad. Our loving Father wants us to do what we were created to do: to worship Him no matter what else is going on. He wishes for us to allow Him to water us with His Word and His Spirit so that we can grow spiritually.
God desires us to dig our roots down deep, especially during hard times...to find the water that truly quenches our souls. He longs for us to wait for His appointed time for the fruit that He promises. He wants to remind us that He won't give up on us...that He's not done with us yet. Philippians 1:6 says, "...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
John 15:5 says, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a woman remains in me and I in her, she will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do NOTHING." So, remember this: you have to set aside some time to be in God's presence. You can do that in the car, while you shower, during your workout at the gym, or even while you're using the bathroom (that's where I keep my devotional book...just keeping it real). :)
It doesn't matter where you sit or stand while you pray and read His Word. Your prayers don't have to be fancy or long. You don't have to read the Bible for hours at a time; try starting with five minutes a day. You can whisper, scream, or simply pray silently in your head. As it happens, I love to spend time with the Lord while I'm outside caring for my trees and vines. It reminds me of how He takes care of me, even when I'm impatient, irritable, and dubious.
God is the Master Gardener, so remember to rest in His care! I'll try to do the same. Share some of your favorite gardening stories or some thoughts about what God's been doing in your life. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Labels: Christianity, faith, gardening, God
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Trusting Him...even more...
I feel like God is calling me to trust Him even more deeply than the day before. It's like this never-ending cycle, right? We begin to trust Him in one area of our lives and then He calls us further into the maze, to trust with stronger faith. If it's not your own issues, then it's something about your kids. Or maybe you've got some financial issues that are dragging you down.
Perhaps it's an ongoing battle with your spouse... because marriage seems to be a never-ending work in progress given by the Master as well. He's constantly shaping us into His service and His workmanship directly through the hands of our loved one. Will we trust God to make us more patient, less angry, more forgiving? Will we let that issue go, that's not really that big of a deal anyways?
The question we have to ask ourselves in all of these things is this: Is God faithful? If He is, then whatever we face, no matter how small or big, we know we can get through it. Do you believe it, daughter or son of the King? Do you really believe that God is faithful? Do you think He sees you during those quiet moments when no-one else can? I think He does.
Easier said than done though, right? That's usually where my struggle begins. I feel like God is faithful one day, but maybe not so much the next. I overcome a huge obstacle and then within days, I'm like: "Well God, how in the world are you going to help me with this next thing?" It's like I'm a child who has all my needs met... but constantly implores, "When's my next snack? I need one NOW...even though you just gave me one fifteen minutes ago!"
We know as parents that our kids' needs are always on the center of our minds. We readily intend to meet their next and most immediate need. But, sometimes their urgency makes us feel like they don't think we'll come through for them. When one of my kids comes running down the stairs yelling, "More chips pleaaaaaase..." you would think he or she had suffered from a severe form of starvation. The truth is, I'm constantly offering them food throughout the day; they could never feel starved in our family's home.
That's how God is with us as well. He meets our needs so abundantly. During His time on earth, Jesus said, "...I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10b). He goes on to say, "I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep" (v. 11). I mean, how can we waste even one second worrying about whether or not God is going to come through for us? He gave us His very own life!
He sacrificed everything for us. He heard the battle cry. He conquered the ugly grip of sin that enslaved us by nailing His own hands and ankles upon the cross. Sure...the Roman soldiers held the hammers, but don't you know His own power allowed the nails to dig into His flesh? In just one millisecond, He could have released the heavenly battalions and commanded the injustice to end. But He didn't. He hung on the cross so that you and I could be free.
When you feel like you can't really trust Jesus, picture a cross hanging in your own home. Would you get on it for someone else? And even if you would be willing to, have you been called to do that any time recently? Pretty sure your answer is "No." So the least you and I can do is this: trust our Savior...because He is trustworthy.
The Apostle Paul reminds us to hand our stresses over to God: "Do not be anxious about ANYTHING, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends ALL understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6+7).
Maybe this post doesn't change anything for you. You're still strung out. That stressful situation still looms over you like a thundercloud. That bill still rests on your chaotic counter-top. Your kid still struggles with that same old issue. You still have to forgive your spouse for being grumpy this very morning.
But, here's the thing about Jesus. When you give Him a little, he takes it and multiplies it. So, start out small with three simple steps. First, take twenty seconds and talk to the Lord about it. Say, "God, this thing overwhelms me. Help!" Second, write down a few of the verses listed above on a sticky note and paste it somewhere to remind you of how He cares.
Third, lift your hands up to heaven as a symbol of how you're letting this stuff go. The issues that your family faces are outside of your control, but not outside of His. You can rest now because you are in good hands.
Perhaps it's an ongoing battle with your spouse... because marriage seems to be a never-ending work in progress given by the Master as well. He's constantly shaping us into His service and His workmanship directly through the hands of our loved one. Will we trust God to make us more patient, less angry, more forgiving? Will we let that issue go, that's not really that big of a deal anyways?
The question we have to ask ourselves in all of these things is this: Is God faithful? If He is, then whatever we face, no matter how small or big, we know we can get through it. Do you believe it, daughter or son of the King? Do you really believe that God is faithful? Do you think He sees you during those quiet moments when no-one else can? I think He does.
Easier said than done though, right? That's usually where my struggle begins. I feel like God is faithful one day, but maybe not so much the next. I overcome a huge obstacle and then within days, I'm like: "Well God, how in the world are you going to help me with this next thing?" It's like I'm a child who has all my needs met... but constantly implores, "When's my next snack? I need one NOW...even though you just gave me one fifteen minutes ago!"
We know as parents that our kids' needs are always on the center of our minds. We readily intend to meet their next and most immediate need. But, sometimes their urgency makes us feel like they don't think we'll come through for them. When one of my kids comes running down the stairs yelling, "More chips pleaaaaaase..." you would think he or she had suffered from a severe form of starvation. The truth is, I'm constantly offering them food throughout the day; they could never feel starved in our family's home.
That's how God is with us as well. He meets our needs so abundantly. During His time on earth, Jesus said, "...I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10b). He goes on to say, "I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep" (v. 11). I mean, how can we waste even one second worrying about whether or not God is going to come through for us? He gave us His very own life!
He sacrificed everything for us. He heard the battle cry. He conquered the ugly grip of sin that enslaved us by nailing His own hands and ankles upon the cross. Sure...the Roman soldiers held the hammers, but don't you know His own power allowed the nails to dig into His flesh? In just one millisecond, He could have released the heavenly battalions and commanded the injustice to end. But He didn't. He hung on the cross so that you and I could be free.
When you feel like you can't really trust Jesus, picture a cross hanging in your own home. Would you get on it for someone else? And even if you would be willing to, have you been called to do that any time recently? Pretty sure your answer is "No." So the least you and I can do is this: trust our Savior...because He is trustworthy.
The Apostle Paul reminds us to hand our stresses over to God: "Do not be anxious about ANYTHING, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends ALL understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6+7).
Maybe this post doesn't change anything for you. You're still strung out. That stressful situation still looms over you like a thundercloud. That bill still rests on your chaotic counter-top. Your kid still struggles with that same old issue. You still have to forgive your spouse for being grumpy this very morning.
But, here's the thing about Jesus. When you give Him a little, he takes it and multiplies it. So, start out small with three simple steps. First, take twenty seconds and talk to the Lord about it. Say, "God, this thing overwhelms me. Help!" Second, write down a few of the verses listed above on a sticky note and paste it somewhere to remind you of how He cares.
Third, lift your hands up to heaven as a symbol of how you're letting this stuff go. The issues that your family faces are outside of your control, but not outside of His. You can rest now because you are in good hands.
Labels: Bible, faith, kids, parents, trust
Monday, August 09, 2010
The Storm Eventually Ends!
When you are in the midst of a storm, it seems like the sun will never shine again. Especially when it has been raining for a very long time. Your countenance changes entirely...your eyes no longer look up because you know the sun is not radiating its warmth any longer. Your ears cease to hear the birds chirping, for the thunder crowds out their beautiful singing. A chilled heaviness drags you down. Yet, at times, you lift your head a few degrees, in search of a sign of promise. You scan the skies for a rainbow.
Out in the distance, you think you see some red...maybe some orange, and even a little ray of yellow. But, you don't. Nothing but darkness and shadows fill the skies. Another week goes by and then a month, and then even a year. Still darkness. Still raining. Thunder is all that you hear pounding on your heart and upon your circumstances. But hope remains. You still pine for some green, some blue, and a bit of purple out in the distance. You wonder where God is and why He has refused to end the storm that entangles you. Your faith begins to waiver.
But you remain faithful. You question. You doubt. You become angry. But, you remain faithful. You listen for His still, small voice. Even a whisper would do. You search for His wisdom. You continue to glance for signs of His promises...but the rainbow still hides itself behind the clouds. It is still dreary. It is still raining. The wind howls and the birds' chorus is still muted.
One morning, you drop to your knees, yet again. The tears intermix with raindrops. Your eyes close and your heart begins to seek once more... and then... it happens. The rainbow appears! Your prayers of power command the storm away. The clouds flee. The thunder and lightning disappear. The bright colors and blinding light flood your heart. You ARE healed. God's glory fills you and satan's lies sprint away in terror. The birds ARE singing again. You look up and smile! You dance! You believe!
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When God flexes His power, we are changed. We are restored. We are healed and renewed. Why do we have to wait for His perfect timing for this to happen? Why is one day different than another and one prayer more authoritative than the previous one? I'm not really sure. But, I know this...that God healed my heart from an intense season of depression and that I felt His physical presence come upon me when it happened.
We can question the Lord's will and His timing, but we shouldn't stay there too long. Instead, we should turn our hearts into an attitude of praise and adoration, knowing that He is always good. Knowing that He is always loving. Knowing that He will step in when it is His will and timing to do so. Knowing that He has perfected us and transformed us along the way.
If you are fretting today dear believer, don't lose heart. God is still the same today as He was yesterday. He is the one who created the whole earth and the universe beyond. He is the one who parted the Red Sea. He is the one who raised Lazarus from the dead and then raised Himself from the dead when sin was defeated once and for all on the cross at Calvary.
When you do lose sight of His power, remind yourself of the God He has been throughout history. He was faithful to Abraham. He restored Joseph from his brothers' betrayal. He gave hope to Esther and her people. He transformed Saul into Paul. He empowered simple fishermen to become the leaders of our mighty faith. And He has shown His faithfulness in your own life hundreds and thousands of times as well.
After you remind yourself of these redeemed people, set your eyes upon the hope that the Lord offers today. He will never leave you. He always hears your prayers. He loves you no matter what you have done. He offers rest when you are weary. He gives abundant life in this lifetime. He extends forgiveness and eternal life!
The storm will end! The rainbow will come! And you will be able to proclaim His goodness to others as a result. Share how God has brought hope during a dark circumstance or season in your life. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Out in the distance, you think you see some red...maybe some orange, and even a little ray of yellow. But, you don't. Nothing but darkness and shadows fill the skies. Another week goes by and then a month, and then even a year. Still darkness. Still raining. Thunder is all that you hear pounding on your heart and upon your circumstances. But hope remains. You still pine for some green, some blue, and a bit of purple out in the distance. You wonder where God is and why He has refused to end the storm that entangles you. Your faith begins to waiver.
But you remain faithful. You question. You doubt. You become angry. But, you remain faithful. You listen for His still, small voice. Even a whisper would do. You search for His wisdom. You continue to glance for signs of His promises...but the rainbow still hides itself behind the clouds. It is still dreary. It is still raining. The wind howls and the birds' chorus is still muted.
One morning, you drop to your knees, yet again. The tears intermix with raindrops. Your eyes close and your heart begins to seek once more... and then... it happens. The rainbow appears! Your prayers of power command the storm away. The clouds flee. The thunder and lightning disappear. The bright colors and blinding light flood your heart. You ARE healed. God's glory fills you and satan's lies sprint away in terror. The birds ARE singing again. You look up and smile! You dance! You believe!
*********************************************************************
When God flexes His power, we are changed. We are restored. We are healed and renewed. Why do we have to wait for His perfect timing for this to happen? Why is one day different than another and one prayer more authoritative than the previous one? I'm not really sure. But, I know this...that God healed my heart from an intense season of depression and that I felt His physical presence come upon me when it happened.
We can question the Lord's will and His timing, but we shouldn't stay there too long. Instead, we should turn our hearts into an attitude of praise and adoration, knowing that He is always good. Knowing that He is always loving. Knowing that He will step in when it is His will and timing to do so. Knowing that He has perfected us and transformed us along the way.
If you are fretting today dear believer, don't lose heart. God is still the same today as He was yesterday. He is the one who created the whole earth and the universe beyond. He is the one who parted the Red Sea. He is the one who raised Lazarus from the dead and then raised Himself from the dead when sin was defeated once and for all on the cross at Calvary.
When you do lose sight of His power, remind yourself of the God He has been throughout history. He was faithful to Abraham. He restored Joseph from his brothers' betrayal. He gave hope to Esther and her people. He transformed Saul into Paul. He empowered simple fishermen to become the leaders of our mighty faith. And He has shown His faithfulness in your own life hundreds and thousands of times as well.
After you remind yourself of these redeemed people, set your eyes upon the hope that the Lord offers today. He will never leave you. He always hears your prayers. He loves you no matter what you have done. He offers rest when you are weary. He gives abundant life in this lifetime. He extends forgiveness and eternal life!
The storm will end! The rainbow will come! And you will be able to proclaim His goodness to others as a result. Share how God has brought hope during a dark circumstance or season in your life. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Labels: faith, healing, rainbows, rainstorm
Tuesday, August 03, 2010
Be courageous! Be strong!
As I read through one of my favorite devotional books this morning, I was touched by some challenging words. They are from the August 3rd entry from "Streams in the Desert." The words begin with a verse from the Bible: "Be men (and women) of courage; be strong" (1 Corinthians 16:13).
The entry goes on to quote Phillips Brooks: "Never pray for an easier life-- pray to be a stronger person! Never pray for tasks equal to your power-- pray for power equal to your tasks. Then doing your work will be no miracle-- you will be the miracle." So what does this look like on a practical level for you and me?
COURAGE:
It means delving into things that aren't necessarily comfortable. Helping the neighbor who has recently lost her husband by bringing meals and extra bedding for her guests. It also means going out of your way to spend time with her after the funeral is over and everyone else has left. Though it's difficult to interact with grieving hearts, it is very very brave.
It also means forgiving your spouse in front of you kids even when you feel like throwing out ten more cutting words in your defense. It takes courage to allow God's spirit to convict instead of tearing into that person who has hurt you. Sometimes a friend or a relative might cause you pain and you must respond in the same way: FORGIVE!
Maybe for you, it means staying at a job that you don't necessarily love because it's where God wants you at the moment. Or it could be the simple response of walking with the Lord even when you don't feel His touch or can't see His plan. Continue to read His word. Continue to trust His plan. That takes courage, friend!
STRENGTH:
Maybe you are called upon to help a co-worker move some heavy boxes. Go ahead... extend your strength for her, even though you'd rather be watching the baseball game instead. What about rearranging the family-room for your wife for the twelfth time this year, simply because it shows her that you care? Flex those biceps because you are strong!
And yet, it could be as simple as following up with a friend who has battled depression. You might feel tired of hearing about his problems and sorrows; but your strength gives him so much comfort while he simply tries to make it through each day.
Maybe you are called to be strong during these tough economic times. Strong to make the tough cut-backs. Strong to endure those two used cars sitting in your drive-way. Strong to do without... even though you'd rather buy those new shiny gadgets. Flex your power by putting your money into savings instead. Fix that item that's broken instead of replacing it; this way, you can extend a hand and help someone else who has much less.
Courage. Strength. These are essential to our Christian faith. But, many of us forfeit their presence in our lives because it's easier to avoid the work involved to develop them. We run. We hide. The result is that we are cowards and we are weak.
Let's step up to the plate fellow believers. Stand! Run! Soar into the challenges of today. When you are called upon to be courageous and to show your strength, be ready! No matter what the cost, you will reap the benefits of a pleased Savior. His smile will shine upon your life as you obey Him...especially when it's hard.
The entry goes on to quote Phillips Brooks: "Never pray for an easier life-- pray to be a stronger person! Never pray for tasks equal to your power-- pray for power equal to your tasks. Then doing your work will be no miracle-- you will be the miracle." So what does this look like on a practical level for you and me?
COURAGE:
It means delving into things that aren't necessarily comfortable. Helping the neighbor who has recently lost her husband by bringing meals and extra bedding for her guests. It also means going out of your way to spend time with her after the funeral is over and everyone else has left. Though it's difficult to interact with grieving hearts, it is very very brave.
It also means forgiving your spouse in front of you kids even when you feel like throwing out ten more cutting words in your defense. It takes courage to allow God's spirit to convict instead of tearing into that person who has hurt you. Sometimes a friend or a relative might cause you pain and you must respond in the same way: FORGIVE!
Maybe for you, it means staying at a job that you don't necessarily love because it's where God wants you at the moment. Or it could be the simple response of walking with the Lord even when you don't feel His touch or can't see His plan. Continue to read His word. Continue to trust His plan. That takes courage, friend!
STRENGTH:
Maybe you are called upon to help a co-worker move some heavy boxes. Go ahead... extend your strength for her, even though you'd rather be watching the baseball game instead. What about rearranging the family-room for your wife for the twelfth time this year, simply because it shows her that you care? Flex those biceps because you are strong!
And yet, it could be as simple as following up with a friend who has battled depression. You might feel tired of hearing about his problems and sorrows; but your strength gives him so much comfort while he simply tries to make it through each day.
Maybe you are called to be strong during these tough economic times. Strong to make the tough cut-backs. Strong to endure those two used cars sitting in your drive-way. Strong to do without... even though you'd rather buy those new shiny gadgets. Flex your power by putting your money into savings instead. Fix that item that's broken instead of replacing it; this way, you can extend a hand and help someone else who has much less.
Courage. Strength. These are essential to our Christian faith. But, many of us forfeit their presence in our lives because it's easier to avoid the work involved to develop them. We run. We hide. The result is that we are cowards and we are weak.
Let's step up to the plate fellow believers. Stand! Run! Soar into the challenges of today. When you are called upon to be courageous and to show your strength, be ready! No matter what the cost, you will reap the benefits of a pleased Savior. His smile will shine upon your life as you obey Him...especially when it's hard.
Labels: Bible, courage, faith, family, strength
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Live for Today
When we allow our minds to be weighed down by the "what ifs" of yesterday or tomorrow, we can not fulfill the duties of today. Though challenging to say the least, we must engage the present by keeping our eyes on what faces us right now.
For some, a broken relationship from the past haunts them while another regrets a poor decision from decades ago. One thinks, "If I'd only done A instead of B!" But, what value is there in reliving the "wish I'd haves" from days gone by? In truth, the "couldas," "shouldas," and "wouldas" only serve as shackles on our feet while trespassing upon our ability to take steps for today.
Similarly, others dread the future. One wonders, "How will I pay that bill that's coming next week?" Another ponders, "What if my spouse ever leaves me or what if my child gets sick and dies?" Just like obsessing over the past can not rewrite history, stressing over the future doesn't make life safer or void of problems either. Even though it might seem less damaging to worry about the future instead of the past, living with your eyes upon tomorrow can be futile as well.
Even Jesus cautions against this kind of thinking when he says, "Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" (Matthew 6:34). I think I hear an "Amen" through my laptop from some of you on this point because most of us readily agree that each day has enough problems of its own. Sadly, we often forget to apply the first part of that verse about not worrying.
Now, this doesn't mean that we can't ever think about issues from the past or possess feelings of regret. Nor, does it mean that we can't plan for the future by making wise choices, such as solvent financial investments or a healthy diet and exercise plan. But, in the midst of these contemplations, we shouldn't fret over the past or the future beyond what we can control. Instead, we should seek serenity for today because the truth is that we can't change the past and we can't determine the future.
So, instead of taking steps backward or forward, let's stand firm upon the tasks and concerns of today, just one moment at a time. Let's busy ourselves with current needs and responsibilities: food, clothes, bills, relationships, and chores...but just for today. The result will be a fuller day, lived with intentionality and focus. By living for one day at a time, each breath will feel deeper and more relaxed; anxieties will lessen, and peace will follow!
Share some of your thoughts about living simply for today. What are some of the tools that help you to implement these truths? We'd love to hear from you. :)
For some, a broken relationship from the past haunts them while another regrets a poor decision from decades ago. One thinks, "If I'd only done A instead of B!" But, what value is there in reliving the "wish I'd haves" from days gone by? In truth, the "couldas," "shouldas," and "wouldas" only serve as shackles on our feet while trespassing upon our ability to take steps for today.
Similarly, others dread the future. One wonders, "How will I pay that bill that's coming next week?" Another ponders, "What if my spouse ever leaves me or what if my child gets sick and dies?" Just like obsessing over the past can not rewrite history, stressing over the future doesn't make life safer or void of problems either. Even though it might seem less damaging to worry about the future instead of the past, living with your eyes upon tomorrow can be futile as well.
Even Jesus cautions against this kind of thinking when he says, "Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" (Matthew 6:34). I think I hear an "Amen" through my laptop from some of you on this point because most of us readily agree that each day has enough problems of its own. Sadly, we often forget to apply the first part of that verse about not worrying.
Now, this doesn't mean that we can't ever think about issues from the past or possess feelings of regret. Nor, does it mean that we can't plan for the future by making wise choices, such as solvent financial investments or a healthy diet and exercise plan. But, in the midst of these contemplations, we shouldn't fret over the past or the future beyond what we can control. Instead, we should seek serenity for today because the truth is that we can't change the past and we can't determine the future.
So, instead of taking steps backward or forward, let's stand firm upon the tasks and concerns of today, just one moment at a time. Let's busy ourselves with current needs and responsibilities: food, clothes, bills, relationships, and chores...but just for today. The result will be a fuller day, lived with intentionality and focus. By living for one day at a time, each breath will feel deeper and more relaxed; anxieties will lessen, and peace will follow!
Share some of your thoughts about living simply for today. What are some of the tools that help you to implement these truths? We'd love to hear from you. :)
Labels: faith, live for today, parents
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Sit at the Feet of Jesus
To sit at the feet of Jesus... what does this mean? It's a challenging concept because it's not like he's right in front of us, staring into our eyes. In our scientific world where we depend upon empirical evidence, it's hard to wrap our heads around this idea... to sit at the feet of Jesus. And let's just say that we could actually sit in his presence, what does this look like in practical terms? Here are three simple thoughts to get us moving in the right direction.
First, slow down physically. Sitting at the feet of Jesus means jumping out of the race for a few moments. We get so busy with our day to day tasks that we find it taxing to stop and rest at Jesus' feet. But, this is essential because when we stop to listen, we can actually hear from God, even if it's just a whisper. As we sit down to listen to the Lord, we are able to "Be still and know that (He is) God..." (Psalm 46:10).
Second, slow down mentally. Find a place where you can be alone. This means no cell phones, no laptops, no iPods, and no Kindles. Sometimes, this feels impossible because you live in a house full of family members or room-mates. So, you might just need to get away to a quiet spot in your garden or patio. If you can wake up before everyone else, spend a few moments in your living room or even in that cozy chair next to your bed.
Mark 1:35 shares how Jesus went away to be by Himself to speak with his Father: "Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed." He took some time away from Simon and his companions because even he needed some time alone to pray.
Third, slow down spiritually. Sometimes it's hard to "feel" spiritual. We get so distracted by the concerns around us: the plethora of unpaid bills, the text messages flooding our cell phones, or the stubborn check-engine light on our dashboard. To make this easier, place some symbols in front of you during your prayer-time to remind you of who Jesus is... even amidst life's daily stresses.
A good friend of mine likes to light a candle when she prays. The symbol of light reminds us of who Jesus is. John 1:4 says, "In him was life, and that life was the light of men" (v. 4). Another symbol could be a glass of water. Set it next to you during your prayer-time as a reminder of Jesus as the God of miracles. In John, chapter 2, Jesus turned the water into wine during the wedding banquet at Cana in Galilee. Remember that Jesus can do miracles in your life today as well.
Share how you slow down to sit at Jesus' feet. We'd love to hear from you. :)
First, slow down physically. Sitting at the feet of Jesus means jumping out of the race for a few moments. We get so busy with our day to day tasks that we find it taxing to stop and rest at Jesus' feet. But, this is essential because when we stop to listen, we can actually hear from God, even if it's just a whisper. As we sit down to listen to the Lord, we are able to "Be still and know that (He is) God..." (Psalm 46:10).
Second, slow down mentally. Find a place where you can be alone. This means no cell phones, no laptops, no iPods, and no Kindles. Sometimes, this feels impossible because you live in a house full of family members or room-mates. So, you might just need to get away to a quiet spot in your garden or patio. If you can wake up before everyone else, spend a few moments in your living room or even in that cozy chair next to your bed.
Mark 1:35 shares how Jesus went away to be by Himself to speak with his Father: "Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed." He took some time away from Simon and his companions because even he needed some time alone to pray.
Third, slow down spiritually. Sometimes it's hard to "feel" spiritual. We get so distracted by the concerns around us: the plethora of unpaid bills, the text messages flooding our cell phones, or the stubborn check-engine light on our dashboard. To make this easier, place some symbols in front of you during your prayer-time to remind you of who Jesus is... even amidst life's daily stresses.
A good friend of mine likes to light a candle when she prays. The symbol of light reminds us of who Jesus is. John 1:4 says, "In him was life, and that life was the light of men" (v. 4). Another symbol could be a glass of water. Set it next to you during your prayer-time as a reminder of Jesus as the God of miracles. In John, chapter 2, Jesus turned the water into wine during the wedding banquet at Cana in Galilee. Remember that Jesus can do miracles in your life today as well.
Share how you slow down to sit at Jesus' feet. We'd love to hear from you. :)
Labels: faith, family, Jesus, prayer
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Trust
Sometimes, you just have to trust God, even when it feels like you can't. There will even be times when religious leaders let you down. You will think you have their confidence and they will come up short in spite of your elevated faith in them. This is because the church is imperfect; it is a place full of grace, but simultaneously a station full of sinful human beings.
So, what do we do when we've been wronged? The simple answer is this: we follow Christ's example. We forgive, of course. Remember what Jesus said as He was being crucified up on the cross, "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they are doing."
I mean, if He could extend mercy while people were in the process of murdering Him, we can do it in the midst of our less excruciating circumstances, right? Easier said than done, that's for sure. But, I'm so glad that my ultimate spiritual authority will never let me down. Jesus is always a sure thing; He's consistently the real deal.
So, when we tell Jesus that we're going to take up our cross and follow Him, we have to wrestle over some really hard issues about what that means. Are we going to remain faithful even when we feel let down, unprotected, and seriously challenged? What about when finances get tough or when a parent becomes ill? What about when a marriage gets messy? Or, when the relationship with your own kid becomes one of despair?
What about when people in your own church treat you like you did something against God's will even when you heard it from the Lord Himself? What happens when you're really real with someone and then she judges you for it? Have you ever felt like someone liked you more before you spilled the beans? It's like, they'd rather hear the answer, "I'm fine" to everything because it makes their life easier. Will you forgive and love during those times?
Even though these are hard questions, the answers are pretty simple. In 1 Corinthians, God tells us that we won't be tempted beyond what we can bear and that He will provide a way out from that temptation. Are you tempted to sin: to cheat, to cave into fear, to be anxious, to crouch up in anger, or to stew in jealousy? Turn it to Jesus, right away... so He can help you in the midst of your struggle. You can always be REAL with Him.
Jesus also tells us in Philippians that we "...CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens (us)" (4:13). So, even when it's hard to do the right thing amidst difficult circumstances, it's not impossible. Think about it...we can actually grow during the tough times if we choose to lean on God.
John 15:5+6 say, "I am the vine and you are the branches; if a man remains in me and I in Him, he will bear much fruit. Apart from me you can do nothing." So, the key is to remain in Christ...at all times, but especially during the crazy times. If you feel tempted to give up because someone has given up on you or because you can't find your way in the midst of the darkness, well...don't! Don't despair! Don't give in! Keep the faith because you can be victorious with God's help!
Share how the Lord has gotten you through a tough time. Has your faith grown as a result of the challenge? Keep trusting and praying. Share your heart and I will pray for you as well! :)
So, what do we do when we've been wronged? The simple answer is this: we follow Christ's example. We forgive, of course. Remember what Jesus said as He was being crucified up on the cross, "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they are doing."
I mean, if He could extend mercy while people were in the process of murdering Him, we can do it in the midst of our less excruciating circumstances, right? Easier said than done, that's for sure. But, I'm so glad that my ultimate spiritual authority will never let me down. Jesus is always a sure thing; He's consistently the real deal.
So, when we tell Jesus that we're going to take up our cross and follow Him, we have to wrestle over some really hard issues about what that means. Are we going to remain faithful even when we feel let down, unprotected, and seriously challenged? What about when finances get tough or when a parent becomes ill? What about when a marriage gets messy? Or, when the relationship with your own kid becomes one of despair?
What about when people in your own church treat you like you did something against God's will even when you heard it from the Lord Himself? What happens when you're really real with someone and then she judges you for it? Have you ever felt like someone liked you more before you spilled the beans? It's like, they'd rather hear the answer, "I'm fine" to everything because it makes their life easier. Will you forgive and love during those times?
Even though these are hard questions, the answers are pretty simple. In 1 Corinthians, God tells us that we won't be tempted beyond what we can bear and that He will provide a way out from that temptation. Are you tempted to sin: to cheat, to cave into fear, to be anxious, to crouch up in anger, or to stew in jealousy? Turn it to Jesus, right away... so He can help you in the midst of your struggle. You can always be REAL with Him.
Jesus also tells us in Philippians that we "...CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens (us)" (4:13). So, even when it's hard to do the right thing amidst difficult circumstances, it's not impossible. Think about it...we can actually grow during the tough times if we choose to lean on God.
John 15:5+6 say, "I am the vine and you are the branches; if a man remains in me and I in Him, he will bear much fruit. Apart from me you can do nothing." So, the key is to remain in Christ...at all times, but especially during the crazy times. If you feel tempted to give up because someone has given up on you or because you can't find your way in the midst of the darkness, well...don't! Don't despair! Don't give in! Keep the faith because you can be victorious with God's help!
Share how the Lord has gotten you through a tough time. Has your faith grown as a result of the challenge? Keep trusting and praying. Share your heart and I will pray for you as well! :)
Labels: belief, Christian, faith
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Tenacious Pursuits
Life is passion and passion is persistence. The truth is that most dreamers are just flat out stubborn. They won't give up no matter what the odds. And that's not a bad thing, you know. Goal-setters don't let the opposition get in their way. Sure, they take their fair share of hits, just like anyone else, but they get back up, 100% of the time.
Think of Lindsey Vonn. Her Olympic summary could be described as "She got the gold and fell down a ton," but the part we'll remember the most is that she got the gold. She's a stellar female skier and she knows it. I'm sure there were days when she felt like throwing in the towel, sleeping in, or skipping out on a plane flight for yet one more international competition. But, she didn't give up, not even when she injured her shin and broke her pinky. Instead, she faced her challenges head on.
Most of us will never make it to the Olympics because we're just too old and out of shape. But, even in our golden days, we just weren't good enough to compete with the athletic gods and goddesses. Even so, we need to pursue life with tenacity and fervor. Currently, I'm pursuing five personal goals:
First, I'm trying to keep myself and my family physically fit. Included in this is a balanced diet with tons of fruits and veggies, along with some wiggle room for a moderate amount of sweets. Likewise, my family and I are increasing our outdoor activities: walking around the neighborhood, bouncing on the trampoline, or just kicking the soccer ball in the backyard together. I'm not convinced that risky diet pills or fancy prepaid meals are the trick. The good old fashioned adage "You are what you eat" seems to make a lot of sense. And the exercise helps to burn off those nagging midnight brownies as well.
The cardio is muy importante because it lifts your spirit as you burn those calories. Sometimes I say to my husband, "I'm just not sure if I'm up for the gym this evening" to which he responds, "You should definitely go to your class, hon..." It's because he knows that I'm more energetic and encouraged after I've had a chance to rev up the endorphins.
I've recently questioned the sanity of my fitness goals as I train for a half marathon and a sprint triathlon; but, honestly... just having the dream makes me get on the damn treadmill in the first place. Every time I pass that six mile marker, I'm like a giddy teenager who just drank three Mountain Dews. My throbbing shins don't hurt at all (okay, they actually kill) and I'm even more motivated for my next run.
My second tenacious pursuit is my faith. My family has attended the same church for the past nine years. During this season we have said goodbye to some great friends who have moved out of state. We have also wished blessings upon our previous pastor who transferred into another venue of ministry. And we have weathered a variety of personal storms with church-friends and family members over the years. But no matter how our emotions and circumstances have oscillated, we have upheld our beliefs and our spiritual virtues. As a result, we have been strengthened and uplifted.
Part of my faith goal includes a dream to pursue singing. Talk about a reward and a blessing to my own spirit. The neat thing is that God actually ministers to me as I offer up praises to him. Also, it's such a treat to look out into the congregation and to see others lifting up their hearts and songs to God as well. They seem so free and joyful and I feel that way as well.
In addition to singing, I'm committed to learning to play the guitar. This way, I can contribute even more during my spiritual act of worship. It's going to involve lots of hard work and a good dust-cloth for my guitar because it's been awhile since I've practiced it consistently; but, it's going to be awesome! I may only be able to play one or two songs with the rest of the band, but that's okay with me, as long as they're cool with that.
My third goal during this season of my life is to be passionate about my family. Before having my three kids, I gave up the completion of a doctoral program. Some would mock this trade as a foolish one. But, instead of balancing five dozen eggs at one time, I decided to stay at home full-time while my husband has focused on his career- goals. It has been a challenging task, the hardest job I've ever undertaken. However, as I have made my family my biggest priority, I have reaped the greatest rewards.
I'm the one who got to see their first steps. I'm the one who gets to observe their chocolate covered faces after hot fudge sundaes. I get to smile and laugh out loud at their incredibly silly jokes. Most importantly, I'm the one who's there to kiss their crocodile tears away when they get hit in the head with the swing or when they lose their Transformer stickers. So far, it's been the right choice for me.
My fourth stubborn objective is to take charge of my finances. With three young children, it's easy to crank up the spending on the Master Card. That goes without saying, right? Most of you are like, "Yeah, it was easy enough to use the stinking thing even before having kids." There's always something to buy: new socks, new jeans, new books, school supplies, sports gear, movie tickets, and all those convenient take-out dinners. YIKES! All of a sudden you check your online statement and you're like, "How did we already charge $500 this month?"
Somewhere between that car repair, the Boy's Scout snack, and the t-ball party, the checkbook ends up a bit short. But, I'm committed to paying off all of our debts! Recently, we decided to sell a rental property (even in this less than totally solvent market) so that we could liquidate some of our cash to pay off our credit card and my student loans. When we call the credit card company to say, "Please cancel our card" we are going to have a bonfire while drinking some tangy margaritas BABY! It's gonna feel good.
The last directive is to have fun. With life focused on fitness, faith, family, and finances, you definitely can't forget to have a good time. Life is short and enjoying the ride is part of the journey. I say this in the context of having fun responsibly, of course. :) Truthfully though, some people get way too caught up in the details and miss out on the big picture. Our kids let loose, so why shouldn't we? If they don't like how their socks bunch up in their shoes, they take them off. And when they feel like running through the grass barefoot, they do. When they hear music, they just start to boogie like no-one is watching. We need to follow their lead on this one!
Even if it means going on a two week camping trip this summer instead of vacationing at the Hyatt, we've gotta catch up on some down time. Sure, most of us would prefer the Hyatt and its luxurious spa and fluffy pillows, but it doesn't exactly compare to an ocean-side campsite either. But, you don't have to wait for that summer vacation to start relaxing. Rent that movie! Go for that midnight stroll in your pajamas, just so you can say that you did. Eat tacos with chocolate syrup on them. There are no rules with food, as long as it tastes good. Just go for it!
If you're not living, then it means you're dead. Don't let people get confused about that! Help people to see what life is about by pursuing your own passions and dreams. You can do it! Lindsey accomplished her goals, even though it was hard work. You can too!
Think of Lindsey Vonn. Her Olympic summary could be described as "She got the gold and fell down a ton," but the part we'll remember the most is that she got the gold. She's a stellar female skier and she knows it. I'm sure there were days when she felt like throwing in the towel, sleeping in, or skipping out on a plane flight for yet one more international competition. But, she didn't give up, not even when she injured her shin and broke her pinky. Instead, she faced her challenges head on.
Most of us will never make it to the Olympics because we're just too old and out of shape. But, even in our golden days, we just weren't good enough to compete with the athletic gods and goddesses. Even so, we need to pursue life with tenacity and fervor. Currently, I'm pursuing five personal goals:
First, I'm trying to keep myself and my family physically fit. Included in this is a balanced diet with tons of fruits and veggies, along with some wiggle room for a moderate amount of sweets. Likewise, my family and I are increasing our outdoor activities: walking around the neighborhood, bouncing on the trampoline, or just kicking the soccer ball in the backyard together. I'm not convinced that risky diet pills or fancy prepaid meals are the trick. The good old fashioned adage "You are what you eat" seems to make a lot of sense. And the exercise helps to burn off those nagging midnight brownies as well.
The cardio is muy importante because it lifts your spirit as you burn those calories. Sometimes I say to my husband, "I'm just not sure if I'm up for the gym this evening" to which he responds, "You should definitely go to your class, hon..." It's because he knows that I'm more energetic and encouraged after I've had a chance to rev up the endorphins.
I've recently questioned the sanity of my fitness goals as I train for a half marathon and a sprint triathlon; but, honestly... just having the dream makes me get on the damn treadmill in the first place. Every time I pass that six mile marker, I'm like a giddy teenager who just drank three Mountain Dews. My throbbing shins don't hurt at all (okay, they actually kill) and I'm even more motivated for my next run.
My second tenacious pursuit is my faith. My family has attended the same church for the past nine years. During this season we have said goodbye to some great friends who have moved out of state. We have also wished blessings upon our previous pastor who transferred into another venue of ministry. And we have weathered a variety of personal storms with church-friends and family members over the years. But no matter how our emotions and circumstances have oscillated, we have upheld our beliefs and our spiritual virtues. As a result, we have been strengthened and uplifted.
Part of my faith goal includes a dream to pursue singing. Talk about a reward and a blessing to my own spirit. The neat thing is that God actually ministers to me as I offer up praises to him. Also, it's such a treat to look out into the congregation and to see others lifting up their hearts and songs to God as well. They seem so free and joyful and I feel that way as well.
In addition to singing, I'm committed to learning to play the guitar. This way, I can contribute even more during my spiritual act of worship. It's going to involve lots of hard work and a good dust-cloth for my guitar because it's been awhile since I've practiced it consistently; but, it's going to be awesome! I may only be able to play one or two songs with the rest of the band, but that's okay with me, as long as they're cool with that.
My third goal during this season of my life is to be passionate about my family. Before having my three kids, I gave up the completion of a doctoral program. Some would mock this trade as a foolish one. But, instead of balancing five dozen eggs at one time, I decided to stay at home full-time while my husband has focused on his career- goals. It has been a challenging task, the hardest job I've ever undertaken. However, as I have made my family my biggest priority, I have reaped the greatest rewards.
I'm the one who got to see their first steps. I'm the one who gets to observe their chocolate covered faces after hot fudge sundaes. I get to smile and laugh out loud at their incredibly silly jokes. Most importantly, I'm the one who's there to kiss their crocodile tears away when they get hit in the head with the swing or when they lose their Transformer stickers. So far, it's been the right choice for me.
My fourth stubborn objective is to take charge of my finances. With three young children, it's easy to crank up the spending on the Master Card. That goes without saying, right? Most of you are like, "Yeah, it was easy enough to use the stinking thing even before having kids." There's always something to buy: new socks, new jeans, new books, school supplies, sports gear, movie tickets, and all those convenient take-out dinners. YIKES! All of a sudden you check your online statement and you're like, "How did we already charge $500 this month?"
Somewhere between that car repair, the Boy's Scout snack, and the t-ball party, the checkbook ends up a bit short. But, I'm committed to paying off all of our debts! Recently, we decided to sell a rental property (even in this less than totally solvent market) so that we could liquidate some of our cash to pay off our credit card and my student loans. When we call the credit card company to say, "Please cancel our card" we are going to have a bonfire while drinking some tangy margaritas BABY! It's gonna feel good.
The last directive is to have fun. With life focused on fitness, faith, family, and finances, you definitely can't forget to have a good time. Life is short and enjoying the ride is part of the journey. I say this in the context of having fun responsibly, of course. :) Truthfully though, some people get way too caught up in the details and miss out on the big picture. Our kids let loose, so why shouldn't we? If they don't like how their socks bunch up in their shoes, they take them off. And when they feel like running through the grass barefoot, they do. When they hear music, they just start to boogie like no-one is watching. We need to follow their lead on this one!
Even if it means going on a two week camping trip this summer instead of vacationing at the Hyatt, we've gotta catch up on some down time. Sure, most of us would prefer the Hyatt and its luxurious spa and fluffy pillows, but it doesn't exactly compare to an ocean-side campsite either. But, you don't have to wait for that summer vacation to start relaxing. Rent that movie! Go for that midnight stroll in your pajamas, just so you can say that you did. Eat tacos with chocolate syrup on them. There are no rules with food, as long as it tastes good. Just go for it!
If you're not living, then it means you're dead. Don't let people get confused about that! Help people to see what life is about by pursuing your own passions and dreams. You can do it! Lindsey accomplished her goals, even though it was hard work. You can too!
Labels: faith, family, finances, fitness, fun
Tuesday, September 01, 2009
Don't Give Up!
Sometimes, life just doesn't seem to be working out. You give it your all, and it still doesn't seem like you're making a difference. But, when you walk with the Lord, it makes a huge impact. God's word is an anchor for our souls, even when we feel like we're drowning...even when we can't see the path through the fog.
Here are a few reminders from God's word about hanging on, even when you feel like letting go. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for calamity, to give you a future and a hope." Also, King David shares his hope from Psalm 38:15 which says, "For I hope in You, O LORD; You will answer, O Lord my God."
Sometimes, God works in ways that we can not see. During those times, we need to shut our eyes and allow Him to lead us. We look to the right and to the left and up and down, thinking that we will be able to find the answer. But, God wants to lead us and direct our steps in His timing, not in ours. That means we might not be able to find the solution right away. But, as we seek His will and not our own, we will be able to see through His eyes. He will push away the fog and make things clear.
Here are a few reminders from God's word about hanging on, even when you feel like letting go. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for calamity, to give you a future and a hope." Also, King David shares his hope from Psalm 38:15 which says, "For I hope in You, O LORD; You will answer, O Lord my God."
Sometimes, God works in ways that we can not see. During those times, we need to shut our eyes and allow Him to lead us. We look to the right and to the left and up and down, thinking that we will be able to find the answer. But, God wants to lead us and direct our steps in His timing, not in ours. That means we might not be able to find the solution right away. But, as we seek His will and not our own, we will be able to see through His eyes. He will push away the fog and make things clear.
Labels: encouragement, faith
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Forgive. Forgive. Forgive!
As Christians, we are called to forgive one another. The simple answer: because Christ forgave us first.
When a neighbor harasses you, forgive her.
When a parent neglects you, forgive him.
When a spouse irritates you, forgive him.
When a friend forgets you, forgive her.
When a teacher insults you, forgive her.
When a child disrespects you, forgive him.
When a boss refuses to reward you, forgive him.
When an acquaintance wrongly accuses you, forgive her.
When Jesus was humiliated, he loved them.
When Jesus was mocked, he loved them.
When Jesus was forgotten, he loved them.
When Jesus was spit on, he loved them.
When Jesus was denied, he loved them.
When Jesus was rejected, he loved them.
When Jesus was beaten, he loved them.
When Jesus was crucified, he loved them.
When a neighbor harasses you, forgive her.
When a parent neglects you, forgive him.
When a spouse irritates you, forgive him.
When a friend forgets you, forgive her.
When a teacher insults you, forgive her.
When a child disrespects you, forgive him.
When a boss refuses to reward you, forgive him.
When an acquaintance wrongly accuses you, forgive her.
When Jesus was humiliated, he loved them.
When Jesus was mocked, he loved them.
When Jesus was forgotten, he loved them.
When Jesus was spit on, he loved them.
When Jesus was denied, he loved them.
When Jesus was rejected, he loved them.
When Jesus was beaten, he loved them.
When Jesus was crucified, he loved them.
